Some couples are almost desperate to conceive a baby of one particular gender. Fathers especially, can be eager to have a boy but there are also mothers who long for a son. Most couples however, are happy with either a boy or a girl baby, as long as it is healthy and strong. But if you are keen to try to sway the odds of having a boy then there is no harm in trying. Just remember that there are no guarantees and the odds of conceiving a boy or a girl are almost exactly the same for each and every pregnancy.
No matter what claims are made by companies asserting their skills in predicting whether a boy or girl will be conceived, don’t be too trusting. A lot of time, money, trust and energy can be wasted by couples who think they can consciously influence their baby’s gender. It’s worth remembering that the only scientifically proven strategy which can sway the odds, just slightly, is the timing of intercourse.
Diet, lunar calendars, sexual positions and even the boy/girl patterning within families do not change the likelihood of gender determination.
At the current time in New Zealand, the only occasion when gender selection is done via fertility assistance is when there is a likelihood of the baby inheriting a sex linked disorder. Genetic counselling is often recommended as one part of an overall treatment regime. It is true that in some countries ‘designer babies’ are more common, with clinics freely advertising their success rates. Though the important issues of control over biology, quality of the parent/child relationship and expectations which may be placed on the ‘perfect’ child need to be thought about by parents very carefully in advance.
|Characteristics of boy sperm||What this means to you|
|Are identified as looking like a Y||Nothing really, just an interesting point.|
|Are not as resilient or strong as girl sperm.||Interesting but nothing more.|
|Have short bursts of power before they fizzle out in energy.||This affects the timing of sex to coincide with ovulation; don’t expect them to hang around.|
|Are not capable of fertilising the egg past 24 hours after they have left the man’s body.||Timing sex to coincide with the day of ovulation may help slightly to increase the odds of having a boy.|
|Move at high speed towards the egg.||Interesting but out of your control.|
|Characteristics of girl sperm||What this means to you|
|Are identified as looking like an X.||Interesting – some people remember the differences because they claim that the extra arm on the x indicates more strength.|
|Are more resilient and live for longer than Y sperm. This means they can still fertilise the egg 4-5 days after they have left the man’s body.||You don’t need to be so particular about timing sex to coincide with ovulation. Female sperm can wait around for longer until the egg is ready to be fertilised.|
|Require less ‘nurturing’ to find their way to the egg.||Interesting, but you don’t need to do anything consciously to look after them. Just don’t douche.|
|Move more slowly than Y sperm but retain their energy.||Again, you don’t need to do anything in particular.|
The timing of when a couple has sex is thought to actually make a difference in helping to conceive with a boy. It is one of the strategies suggested in The Shettles Method, which claims that the chances of having a boy are boosted when conception occurs as close to ovulation as possible. Boy or Y sperm are not as resilient as the X or female sperm, and according to Shettles it may help to provide a bit of additional support in supporting the Y sperm to get to their destination and not have to compete any more than they absolutely have to. Of course, this all depends on the willingness of a couple to track the woman’s ovulation and be available to each other over those crucial fertile hours.
According to Shettles, if you want a boy then avoid having sex:
Shettles also advises that if couples want to conceive with a boy:
It does seem that male sperm prefer an alkaline vaginal environment, which is where the correlation between diet and gender selection comes in. But whether or not eating a less acidic diet makes a difference is still open to debate. But it probably does no harm.
If you want to conceive a boy baby then you may want to consider eating less of these types of foods:
Try eating more of these foods: