Hi there >^..^<
I do not know where else to ask for advice or support for this situation, I have tried numerous searches on the net with no joy.
To keep this story short, in Feb 2000 I separated from my husband and he said he needed to get away to get over our marriage breakdown, . My eldest son 11 (from previous relationship) was to stay with me while our 4 year old son lived with his him. My ex asked my permission to go to Qld to stay with his aunt for 4-6 months then he would return (we live in Albany WA). I considered my decision very carefully and trusted him to do the right thing, BIG MISTAKE! First he went to Perth for a couple of weeks then off to Qld. At first he used to call to let me know of their progress across the Nullabor and up to Qld, after a couple of weeks his mobile was disconnected but he still called to say what they were doing. Then all of a sudden he rang me and said "guess what? We're in Tassie and we're not coming back!" All the time I thought they were travelling and in Qld he was settling in Tasmania and had set up a new life. When I got legal advice I was told there was nothing I could do as he had been gone too long and it would be unfair to take the child from his new life! I was devastated, it turns out that I can do nothing but wait until our son is old enough to decide where he wants to live, he is now 9 and very confused about where he wants to be. He comes over every 6 months to visit and we talk regularly on the phone. We are all suffering so much from this and I find it extremely hard to cope at times. There is a lot more to this but the posting is already huge.
Any comments or advice welcomed
Thanks for listening,
From kaleidoscopkitty >^..^<
I do not know where else to ask for advice or support for this situation, I have tried numerous searches on the net with no joy.
To keep this story short, in Feb 2000 I separated from my husband and he said he needed to get away to get over our marriage breakdown, . My eldest son 11 (from previous relationship) was to stay with me while our 4 year old son lived with his him. My ex asked my permission to go to Qld to stay with his aunt for 4-6 months then he would return (we live in Albany WA). I considered my decision very carefully and trusted him to do the right thing, BIG MISTAKE! First he went to Perth for a couple of weeks then off to Qld. At first he used to call to let me know of their progress across the Nullabor and up to Qld, after a couple of weeks his mobile was disconnected but he still called to say what they were doing. Then all of a sudden he rang me and said "guess what? We're in Tassie and we're not coming back!" All the time I thought they were travelling and in Qld he was settling in Tasmania and had set up a new life. When I got legal advice I was told there was nothing I could do as he had been gone too long and it would be unfair to take the child from his new life! I was devastated, it turns out that I can do nothing but wait until our son is old enough to decide where he wants to live, he is now 9 and very confused about where he wants to be. He comes over every 6 months to visit and we talk regularly on the phone. We are all suffering so much from this and I find it extremely hard to cope at times. There is a lot more to this but the posting is already huge.
Any comments or advice welcomed
Thanks for listening,
From kaleidoscopkitty >^..^<