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My closest friend has just been diagnosed with this. im not sure what to say or do. does anyone have any experience with this. help please.
My mum was diagnosed with bi-polar about 8 years ago and it was very hard on everyone once she excepted she had the disorder and went on the medication she was fine you wouldn’t know she had it but then she went off her meds and everything went downhill she lost all her kids and turned to heavy drugs I stopped talking to her 4 years ago and don’t plan to ever speak to her again. She also suffers from anxiety and manic depression so all that together is not good! I don’t have any real advice as I am not sure how the disorder is effecting her or how bad it actually is just be there for them through the good and the mad and remember whatever she does it is not her fault and she will get better.
My mum was diagnosed with bi-polar about 8 years ago and it was very hard on everyone once she excepted she had the disorder and went on the medication she was fine you wouldn’t know she had it but then she went off her meds and everything went downhill she lost all her kids and turned to heavy drugs I stopped talking to her 4 years ago and don’t plan to ever speak to her again. She also suffers from anxiety and manic depression so all that together is not good! I don’t have any real advice as I am not sure how the disorder is effecting her or how bad it actually is just be there for them through the good and the mad and remember whatever she does it is not her fault and she will get better.

My mum was diagnosed with bi-polar about 8 years ago and it was very hard on everyone once she excepted she had the disorder and went on the medication she was fine you wouldn’t know she had it but then she went off her meds and everything went downhill she lost all her kids and turned to heavy drugs I stopped talking to her 4 years ago and don’t plan to ever speak to her again. She also suffers from anxiety and manic depression so all that together is not good! I don’t have any real advice as I am not sure how the disorder is effecting her or how bad it actually is just be there for them through the good and the mad and remember whatever she does it is not her fault and she will get better.

Thanks. im sorry about your mum. my friend has been put on lithium and is attending couselling and pyscologists. just not sure what to say or do.
My close friend got diagnosed after the birth of her son after having a massive manic episode. Everyone Bi polar shows itself in different ways. My friend isn't nasty, or horrible when not on the tablets she is more relaxed on them. All I did for her was support her, I visited her in hospital, listen to her, be there when she needed someone and had to get out the house etc... I did provide her with a lot of information about it so she understood it better.

Just let her know your there for her whenever she needs it that's all you need to do smile I hope this helps
my mum has suffered since she was about 19 and it has taken a huge toll on her life. as a result she has never been accountable for her actions and has gone through life blaming everything on her condition thus my relationship with her is rocky.

i would say be patient and considerate especially in times of her depression but dont enable her into believing she is the victim all the time. help her when she needs it but dont take on her responsibilities and bail her out when she needs it. it is a very fine line between being supoortive and being an enabeler. if she can get the right help and meds then it may be that simple and her life may move on relatively normal and rely on u and need u just as she always has but this isnt always the case with bipolar.

my mum is 51 now and still despite being on meds it is not controlled and has often bouts of depression and highs.....
Everyone's experience with bi-polar seems to be different, all you can really do is offer your support smile

My uncle has bi-polar, and was only diagnosed a few years ago, and he's in his 60's. He is a strange one to begin with, but he refuses to take meds or accept the diagnosis.

With him, it's an either he's nice or he's nasty situation. His children (all adults) now have very little to do with him as he turns on them without warning, inventing slights and arguments for no good reason, and blaming everyone and everything around him for his problems and reactions. Although this may just be amplified by the bi-polar......

But as long as your friend is willing to keep up with her medication and therapy, there's no reason she can't manage, especially with supportive friends and family. My uncle refuses both help and meds, and wonders why most people have given up on him <img src='https://www.huggies.com.au/forum/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/dry.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='<_<' />
Mine is not a positive story I'm sorry. A close friend of my family battled bi-polar for years, and about 2 years ago he took his own life.

It is devastating, and I'm really sorry to hear your friend is going through this. Equally, I'm sorry to hear that you and the other people close to her are going through it; it's not just about the person suffering with it. Our friend had a wife and 3 school-aged kids. On that day, a neighbour happened to come by before the kids got home from school (the mum was at work), and it was so fortunate he did, because if he didn't then it would have been the kids who discovered his body. How would they ever get over the trauma of that?

I'm sorry this is so morbid... it's my only direct experience with bi-polar. I have heard stories with much happier endings though, I really hope your friend gets the help she needs and finds her way to a happier place very soon.
Bipolar affrective disorder affects people in many different ways. It isn't always a distaster story, but it is a challanging way to live. How do I know? I was diagnosed over 15 years ago.

I won't lie, there have been tough periods in my life, I have been hospitalised, had to take awful medications and had some very dark moments in my life.

BUT, I have also gone to university and got a degree, found love and married a wonderful man, had a beautiful child and am pregnant again with another.

I take medication everyday, see a psychiatrist, and make sure I take care of myself, getting enough sleep, regular excerise and eating well. Do most people even know I have the disorder? No. Not unless I tell them.

The most important thing you can do is just treat your friend exactly the way you always have. She isn't any different to the way she always was. Let her talk to you about it if she wants, or not if she doesn't want to.

It's impossible to know how she is feeling, but I know when I was first diagnosed, it was actually a relief that somebody could finally tell me what was wrong with me and help to get through it. But I did wonder if I would ever be or feel normal again. It's important for her understand that she will. Lithium is awful though and I hated taking it, thankfully I have only ever had to take it for short periods, but it's important to know that this medication will affect her personality for a while, she may seem flat, unemotional or just a bit 'vacant'. But just ignore it, it will pass and she will be herself again soon.

There are a lot of horror stories out there, but they aren't the norm necessarily, I have a mental illness and I work with people with mental illnesses in a professional capacity everyday. I see joy and positive experiences everyday.

Just be the friend you always were, I can't stress that enough. But the fact that you have taken the time to ask what you can do, speaks volumes about how caring you are already so I'm sure you'll do just fine.




Bipolar affrective disorder affects people in many different ways. It isn't always a distaster story, but it is a challanging way to live. How do I know? I was diagnosed over 15 years ago.

I won't lie, there have been tough periods in my life, I have been hospitalised, had to take awful medications and had some very dark moments in my life.

BUT, I have also gone to university and got a degree, found love and married a wonderful man, had a beautiful child and am pregnant again with another.

I take medication everyday, see a psychiatrist, and make sure I take care of myself, getting enough sleep, regular excerise and eating well. Do most people even know I have the disorder? No. Not unless I tell them.

The most important thing you can do is just treat your friend exactly the way you always have. She isn't any different to the way she always was. Let her talk to you about it if she wants, or not if she doesn't want to.

It's impossible to know how she is feeling, but I know when I was first diagnosed, it was actually a relief that somebody could finally tell me what was wrong with me and help to get through it. But I did wonder if I would ever be or feel normal again. It's important for her understand that she will. Lithium is awful though and I hated taking it, thankfully I have only ever had to take it for short periods, but it's important to know that this medication will affect her personality for a while, she may seem flat, unemotional or just a bit 'vacant'. But just ignore it, it will pass and she will be herself again soon.

There are a lot of horror stories out there, but they aren't the norm necessarily, I have a mental illness and I work with people with mental illnesses in a professional capacity everyday. I see joy and positive experiences everyday.

Just be the friend you always were, I can't stress that enough. But the fact that you have taken the time to ask what you can do, speaks volumes about how caring you are already so I'm sure you'll do just fine.




My ex and father of both my kids has bi polar. We didnt know at first but i made him go to mental health after he got very abusive and bad on drugs and dependant on alcohol. He refused to take his medication and unfortunately the abuse continued so we are no longer together and he cant see his son and the baby im currently carrying. Although he was not always this way and there were good times it was very hard to live with as i would never know when he was going to snap.

The fact he refused to believe their was something wrong with him and continued with the drug and alcohol abuse probably makes a huge difference to other people with bi polar that accept the fact they have it and want to do something to help it. I offered my support for as long as i could handle it which was 3 and a half long years i dont regret this even though i was hurt badly both physically and emotionally i know it wasnt completely his fault because of this disorder. I have met other people with bi polar and they were not so bad although they had their mood swings and were a bit weird sometimes they could seem perfectly normal.

The best thing you can do is stick by them if its someone close that you care for but if they dont accept it and dont want the help keep your distance because it can blow up in your face and end badly for you even if you have your heart in the right place and best intentions some people just cant be helped and need to establish the realisation in their own time and sometimes they just cant be helped at all but its not your fault.

All i can say is i tried and i failed and lost alot of friends and people around me because of it and im only starting to build those relationships back up now. Sadly my relationship ended in October last year around the same time i found out i was pregnant. I had to get a dvo against him because of this illness and i now go to counciling because of the hurt it caused me. And although its been a few months since my relationship ended with this person it still all feels new to me and ive only recently been able to speak about what happened to me and my experience with bi polar.
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