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Hi Mandy,

Firstly, a big congratulations on your pregnancy!! I hope your ultrasound goes well today!

It is really easy for me to say, but try not to worry! At least you have the Drs keeping a good eye on you, and any problem should be detected early. Also now you should be feeling some kicks, so hopefully that is reassuring for you too.

I will be thinking of you over the next few months, and am sending you all my best wishes for the rest of your pregnancy,


DD5, DS3, DS lost to SIDS at 6mths & DD6m

Hi tepe,
Thanks we had the ultra sound, bubs is ok size but they could'nt see everything they wanted so we have to go back in 2weeks smile Trying not to worry but, i can feel the baby everyday so that is good. Cant wait for my partner to feel it.

Thanks heaps

2 cuties 7/5/99 & 8/9/04

Hi Mandy,

What great news that bubs is the right size, and you even get another peek with an ultrasound! smile

Those kicks are the most amazing feeling, and so reassuring for you!

Take care of yourself and your family, and try, try not to worry,


DD5, DS3, DS lost to SIDS at 6mths & DD6m

Hi, my name is Belinda. I've never had a miscarriage but have lost a child. Our first pregnancy and baby a breeze then 2 years later was pregnant again, did all the right thingPfolic acid, right food etc..... found out at 18week scan our daughter had a neural tube defect called 'Encephalocele" had to terminate at 20weeks and 3 days gestation Zoe April was born by histerotomy (mini c sect) after c sect with Maddison, we held a funeral. Fell pregnant on high dose folic acid(the only addice to give us on why it happened) 2 months after Zoe and found out at 18 week scan that our son had a heart defect called "Tetralogy of Fallot" needed open heart surgery at 6months of age, Lleyton is now 11months and is doing great, I'm now 11 weeks pregnant again fell by accident on no folic acid so now scared to death something might be wrong, having 12 week scan on 11th June, fingers crossed this baby is healthy.

BelindaQld, 4 children (1 in heaven)

Hi Belinda,

Will also be crossing my fingers for you, i think you have had more than your fair share of upsets,

take care,


DD5, DS3, DS lost to SIDS at 6mths & DD6m

It truly is amazing at the amount of little babies that are born sleeping.

My husband Mark and I are first time parents to a 4 month old little boy called Luke.

We planned our pregnancy and when we went for our first hospital checkup at 11wks, we were told that we were expecting twins. Wow, what a shock but nice one at that. We were so excited and on the way home in the car Mark was yelling at the top of his voice, my god he was excited.

We planned and bought double of everything, twin pram, 2 cots, 2 car seats etc. We had everything down pat on how we were going to survive bringing two little bubs home from hospital.

Mark came to every checkup with me but at 33wks he didn't attend, my stomach (fundas) grew over 8 cms in 2 weeks and I put on over 10 kgs in that time - I was huge. The doctor ordered an ultrasound and found that my little girl was not breathing. It was all very hard to take in, and what was worst of all was that I had to make the phone call to my husband.

We were sent upstairs for blood tests then the doctor told us to go home and come back in 2 weeks (Can you believe that).. Later that night I phoned the delivery suite and told them what had happened that day and they told me to come in straight away without delay.

I developed pre-eclampsia and had to deliver both bubs on the 2nd day in hospital. I opted for a C-section as I was not up to delivering my little girl naturally. We got to spend 6 hours holding little Rhiarna afterwards which was very special to us.

Luke was in Special care for 2 weeks and he was discharged the day of Rhiarna's funeral. We say, he didn't want to miss saying goodbye to his little sister. Not in a million years did I think that I would be the one to bury a little baby.

We are planning to have more children but I am very scared to fall pregnant again, as I don't want to experience that all over again.

You don't realise how you would cope until it happens to you. My husband and I are now support persons to other mums and dads that have experienced a loss of a twin.

I believe everything happens for a reason, I don't know why this happened to me just yet but there is a special reason why.

Cheers, Jo...

Lukes Proud mum. (13.05.04)

I think you and your husband are truly amazing!
I cried reading your story...

I think you are right when you say things happen for a reason. It's just very hard sometimes to see what that reason is.

You have a very precious son and a tiny angel who I am sure is watching over you, waiting to one day meet up with you again.

They say through adversity comes strength... you sound incredibly strong to me.

Thankyou for sharing your story and touching my heart.

Take care,


Hi Everyone,

I just thought I'd share my story with you all.

When we decided to try for our first baby, it seemed to take forever to fall pregnant. We were so excited when I finally got a positive, but sadly at 16 weeks, we lost our baby. About 6 months later we found out we were expecting again. I took extra special care of myself, as like some of you might understand, I blamed myself for losing our first baby. We lost our second baby at 12 weeks.

The most devestating part though, was that the doctors at the hospital, told me that although I might be able to fall pregnant, I would never be able to have a baby. They actually suggested that in order to avoid unnecessary heartache, I might like to consider some form of permanent contraception. I can't even tell you why they said I would not be able to carry a baby. As soon as I heard the word never, my world just fell apart and I felt like I had died.

Well I ended up falling pregnant again a year later and I decided that this time I wasn't going to get attached to the baby because it was only going to die anyway(after all that's what the specialists told me). I didn't look after myself and I refused to acknowledge that I was pregnant. I was stunned when I went for an ultrasound at 30 weeks and my baby was still alive. I then got into baby mode.

Well so much for the doctors. I gave birth to the most healthy baby boy and since then have had another 5 babies. I am currently pregnant with our 7th child. Not bad for someone who wasn't ever supposed to be able to hold her own baby in her arms.

Wow, Barbara....

That is such a wonderful story and truly inspiring. The biggest congrats to you for defeating the drs opinion, and wow, just being where you are.

Best of luck with No 7, when is this bubby due???

Take care,


DD5, DS3, DS lost to SIDS at 6mths & DD6m

Hi Tepe,

Thanks, I think my story is inspriing too, that's why I tell anyone who tells me that they can't have children, not to give up. My sister in law is another example. She was hit by a car when she was a child and was always told that her injuries made it impossible for her to ever have a baby. She was married for about 10 years and didn't plan a life around having any children. But surprise, surprise, she now has a beautiful little boy who is almost 2, conceived naturally.

My baby is due on 14th April. Don't ask me where we are going to fit another child in our house. We only have 4 bedrooms. My husband just suggests that maybe we should stick a shed on the roof. He's so helpful! LOL.

hi barbara!

although i haven't actually experienced the loss of a baby myself, i was interested in reading this thread. i am inspired by, and have total admiration for you all.

off the subject, after reading your last post barb, i have to add something...i have a dear friend who has 7 boys and only a 3 bedroom house!!! the eldest is 11 and the youngest, 3. they have managed to survive this long in their tiny house and, as i'm sure you'll know it has always been cluttered and untidy, but also clean. the kids are always clean, well-fed and totally entertained and amused by wonderful, loving parents. some people enter the house and are absolutely appalled. my friend, who although internally is a little hurt by not-so-nice comments and looks, warns them in advance and has adopted the attitude "don't like it, don't come in"! my friend louise is my inspiration and my idol. i've always wanted a large family but i just wish that i had the patience that my friend has!!! they are now finally going to put an extension on the house. i'm not sure what the final verdict has been, but an original idea was to make a "dorm room" above the verandah and all the boys could sleep and do homework up there, whilst the rest of the house was for parents bedroom, meals and television (the other 2 rooms i'm sure would be dedicated to sewing/craft and "washing"!!!).

anyway, just thought i'd add that! tongue

3 boy bundles of joy under 6, qld

I have had to deal with a loss of a baby. I had a baby when I was 18 yrs old. I didn't go to anenatal classes and was going hard at work and doing stuff i wasn't supposed to do. So when i went on holidays and visit the babys' daddy, the baby decideed to arrive. The baby decided to be born on a bus at mcleans on the northern nsw coast. I was rushed to graffton based hospital where i was in labour for 8 hrs upside down while i was waiting for the intensive care team from the womens hospital to be helicoptered down to me and my baby. In the mean time the babys' father had to be flown from syney up to grafton and my parents from brisbane. Eventuallythe baby came and was flown up to brisbane to i.c.u at the womens while i was stuck in grafton waiting to recover. While all of this was happening massive storm decided to approach and i almost got flooded in at the hospital but i was taken up to brisbane in a car and made it just before all the rain came.
When i arrived in brisbane i wasn't even allowed to see my baby because of the change over in staff in the hospital and the new staff needed to know what was happening with each baby. I was devestated all i wanted to do was see my son , they kept refusing me until like 1 1/2 hrs later and all i did all day was sit and visit him. During the next few days all i did was sit by my sons side and see him grow. he was making progress one day and doing not so well the next. One day his lung decided to deflate so he had trouble breathing, the next few days he did better but it wasn't to be. After 11 days of being alive things started to go wrong and his little body just couldn't take it anymore and he slowly passed away into the night held in his mum and dads arms. He was only 11 days old but all that time we had with him was the best thing in the world.
he was the custest little thing u ever did see and i wish i could hold him now and tell him that i love him and that i miss him but i know that i will see him again one day

6/03/01= Christian Ty Wiggins
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