although i haven't actually experienced the loss of a baby myself, i was interested in reading this thread. i am inspired by, and have total admiration for you all.
off the subject, after reading your last post barb, i have to add something...i have a dear friend who has 7 boys and only a 3 bedroom house!!! the eldest is 11 and the youngest, 3. they have managed to survive this long in their tiny house and, as i'm sure you'll know it has always been cluttered and untidy, but also clean. the kids are always clean, well-fed and totally entertained and amused by wonderful, loving parents. some people enter the house and are absolutely appalled. my friend, who although internally is a little hurt by not-so-nice comments and looks, warns them in advance and has adopted the attitude "don't like it, don't come in"! my friend louise is my inspiration and my idol. i've always wanted a large family but i just wish that i had the patience that my friend has!!! they are now finally going to put an extension on the house. i'm not sure what the final verdict has been, but an original idea was to make a "dorm room" above the verandah and all the boys could sleep and do homework up there, whilst the rest of the house was for parents bedroom, meals and television (the other 2 rooms i'm sure would be dedicated to sewing/craft and "washing"!!!).
anyway, just thought i'd add that! tongue
3 boy bundles of joy under 6, qld