Dear bubbles_mummy. My daughter is now 4 yrs old, but at the same age, I had problems with her too. The bed thing was terrible and just everyday with her made me feel mad and upset as well. I too had my husband saying the same thing, as he thinks that the mother should be able to cope. Well I didnt at first. I was always screaming at her, and sometimes i felt like i wanted to throw her, but out of sheer love, i went to the bathroom and screamed my lungs off. I say the bathroom cuz its more louder and effective. It helped to get the anger out. Once I ad my scream, I washed my face and talked to myself in the mirror telling me its ok, and that she is only little.
Your not a bad mother. And yes it is a stage that she will grow out of, but in the meantime, you just need to try a different approach each time she does something like throw things at you. For example, ignore her at first. Then after the third time, go to her, with a stern voice and say to her NO. Send her to her room and tell her, naughty. Eventually I found that this helped. The ignorance that you show at first will surprise her. eventually she will stop. Try your hardest to make time for yourself. even if it is at 2am in the morning. Find a good book to read, or i found that chatting on the net helped heaps. It took me to a different world of my own. In fact, I have a community on MSN site that I developed just to escape. Funnily enough its called Escape from the world. Please check it out. http://groups.msn.com/escapefromtheworld I really did end up coping and I know you will too. Its just time hun. Thats all, you are a great mother, and dont let anyone, INCLUDING YOURSELF think or say otherwise.
Rose, NSW, 2 kids