My son is only 14 months old, but we had a nightmare bedtime routine before we did the dreaded 'sleep training'. It was a horrible five days. Lots of screaming, tears and temper tantrums - and that was just my husband and I!!
We used to pander to his every bedtime whim. And so began the circle of problems. He knew we would react - whatever the behaviour. The only solution we found was leaving him to cry it out. First five minutes before going in, then 10 and so on. It was one of the hardest things we've ever done, but well worth it. He now goes to sleep unaided and sleeps right through.
Let me know if you have any questions.
Lovebeingamum, 14 mth old baby boy
Sleep???What is that. Jokes. Our 15 month old son is breast fed to sleep when I am around. He is in day care 5 days a week and has no worries about going to bed for his Day Care Mum. Just lies on the mattress and off to sleep. But I am a human pasifier. We have his cot attached to our bed and he sleeps relatively well. Maybe if you lie in the dark with your little one will feel secure and drift happily off to sleep. Sorry I just couldn't fight my instincts to go to him when he cried. So "sleep training" wasn't for me.
What ever your comfortable with is what you should do.
Sleep tight and don't let the bed bugs bite.
QLD 15mth toddler
kris,sa 13mth bub
Maybe something he is eating or drinking in the afternoon is putting him in a hyperactive state.
My daughter Maddison was shocking.
We could not get her to sleep, everything was on her terms. Controlled crying DID NOT work for us. Even with back up support from family, this technique didn't work (she would exhaust all of us a long time before she looked like going to sleep).
We did the same as you, a definate routine every night - dinner, bath, drink, story or cuddle and bed. Then we'd spend the next 3-5 hours re-settling, putting back to bed, calming, ignoring, reading every book available on settling techniques, and spending a lot of time on the phone to tresillian (we should have got frequent flyers points for it).
After a while we were at our wits ends, and nobody could offer a solution. I started doing a little research of my own, and after visiting a naturopath, we discovered she was lactose intollerant, protein intollerant, and a little later on we found she is intollerant to MSG and colourings.
Since changing her diet, we have found her to be a completely different child (we have always had a fairly healthy diet, but you would be surprised at what there is in most healthy foods - even some veges and fruit).
Maddison is now 5, she survived and so did we. She still has her bad days - and we usually find when she does, its because she has eaten something she is not allowed to, or because she has had a late night and hasn't had enough sleep.
We aren't strict with her diet, just sensible, no junk food after 4pm, nothing with red colourings, nothing with MSG or additive 621 (this seems to be what a lot of children with behaviour problems react to).
There are places (such as naturopaths and health food shops) where you can have a sample of urine tested for different food intollerances (I believe there are other methods as well).
I hope you find this information helpfull.
Mel, mum of Joshua 8, Maddison 5, Hailey 5 mths
Tracy, NSW,12mth & expecting
I'd suggest you start on the road to good sleep patterns now. I have a friend with a child similar age to my eldest and she doesn't go to bed, I mean to sleep, till sometimes 10.00pm. Whilst this might work for that family it is not the ideal situation for any child. (ps. in regard to one suggestion given that you keep your child up all day so they are worn out at night - this can have a reverse effect where the child is so hyper that they still can't get to sleep - best just to get some really good habits going asap for all your sakes).
mum to 1y/o & 6 y/o
Nicole, Bayley 3 and Jordan 18mths
keep trying and get your partner to put him to bed and you go out for a few hours.
kirsty, new zealand
Our daughter would go to sleep well, but would wake anywhere up to 6 times a night. I somethimes took over an hour to calm her down and get her back to sleep. We tried controlled crying 4 times. It would take a week to work, then only last 3 nights.
Then I was recommended a homeopath. He looked at her personality, life history, pregnancy and delivery history and wathed her play as well. We began to see results instantly and now 3 mnths later get to sleep at night.
Hope this helps. Give it a try. And one of the good things about homeopathy is that there are no side effects of the remedies. (ps; its different to a naturopath)
anna, chch,17mth girl
hope this might help anyone
Michelle,QLD,5yr boy & 2yr boy