I am 13 weeks pregnant with my first child. my huband has a 5 year old daughter, Kayley, who we have approx 40% of the time.
This little girl's is like my own - I have been in her life since 18 mths old. We do ballet and swimming lessons and I would never miss a parents day at pre-school for the world. Our relationship with her mother (not yet re-partnered) is hot and cold. she is lovely to us one minute and horrid the next. My husband and I have been together for 4 years.
Last week as we were driving home in the car, something came up about "the baby" and Kayley said "the baby will not be my real brother or sister anyway". someone has obviously said this to her, or she has overheard another conversation. It also worries me what "tales" she might be hearing from home. (This is also coming from a little girl who asked my husband at 4 years old "Daddy why are you taking mummy to court?".)
We assured her that the baby will be like a real brother and sister and that there is no difference in the relationships.
Can anyone share stories with step families or give advice on the scenario?