I understand what your going through with having to have a c-sect, and people brushing you off like you had a painfree birth.
Some perception for those mothers, who think its painfree. I had my first son natural and I got up after I had him, had a shower, went to see him and pretty much left a day after. I was sore, no doubt, but I could walk.
My second I was booked in for a c-sect, I was petrified, he had stopped growing at 34 wks. Whilst I was waiting I had a placental abruption and was rushed in for an emergency. My biggest ever saddness (that makes no sense, but it hurts), was that I never got to recall his first day in this world. I felt like a failure than and there. What made me a mum, was that I got myself up the next day and for the next 5 days I walked back and forth from the SCN to see him. I hurt like hell, I split back open because I pushed myself,but I made it work.
To this day i still cry about it and my next fear is that this baby will be a c-sect too.
I really see where your coming from but remember if you are the best mum you can be, than you will never be a failure. Goodluck and I'm sorry for the ramble.