renee, nz pary nth, 2yr old, pregant with #2
i am currently 22 weeks pregnant with my first child, i also had some fears in the beggining about having sex whilst pregnant. After reading alot of baby books and all types of information from the hospital and other avenues which all pointed to the indiction that sex during pregnancy is quite healthy and in no way harms your bub. In the end it comes down to personal choice for the hormones are raging may not feel like sex anyway. My partner and i are now having regular sex and i feel quite comfortable, but it did take me untill i was around 14-15 weeks to overcome my fears and although my partner became frustrated he was very supportive.
I was a little unsure at the beginning, due to the fact that i was terrified of miscarrying. Then at about 20wks i had slight bleeding - which i later found out was due to having sex. Although this does no harm it was a little scary, apparently because the cervix gets so soft in some women it can cause bleeding after sex.
Lately sex has become even more of a challenge, due to a belly getting in the way and some positions aren't very comfty, so i guess you could say that i've tried to keep my hubby happy by doing other things - that's one way to stop his moaning (or start) as he's never had oral stimulation so much.
I find taking more time to get into the mood makes it a lot easier on us and not so challenging. All those myths about women wanting it more while they're pregnant......who would have thought that we'd be the opposite.
Do what you feel is right smile
First time to the Parents Exchange, and first time mom to be - 24 weeks.
Just want to say, good on you guys for having sex! Tell you what, sex (in any form) is so far from my mind right now. Nothing my poor husband does can get me in the mood - lost all my libido!
Does anyone else feel like this?
Bouncing baby boy 17/05/05
im also 24 weeks and i have no libido! haven't done from the start!! but i guess u could say its coming back slowly........very slowly!!! i feel quite sorry for my partner thoughZ!!!!!!!!!!!!
Iam 15 weeks pregnant with my first child and I too have no interest in having sex... (much to my husbands disappointment)...
I have been told though that the further along you get the more you want it but I am not sure how much truth is behind that because I can't see my opinion changing on the subject.
I have read some of the other comments saying their are other ways to stimulate your partners but I am not even up for that.
Good to talk to someone who is experiencing the same.
I just didn't enjoy it because I had a belly in the way and could feel the baby moving - very distracting and just mentally gross! Fortunately my husband is really not keen to have sex either so we match and haven't had to argue about it! He just found it physically awkward due to the belly.
I'm willing to try having sex to bring on labour but my husband is really not keen and I'm not going to pressure him about it.
Mum to Caitlin & Owain
the only 2 times i can recall having sex was our wedding night (when i was 4 months pregnant) and when i was alsmost due to try and induce myself. my husband was very disapointed when i had an emergency cesearian because he had to wait another two months. he's gotten over it now luckily.
i havnt actually found anyone that haveing sex when your due brings on labour - i think its just an old wives tale, but some people have fun trying to prove that wrong.
TRINA, ZANE (both 22) imogen 12.11.04, Eden 23.11.
Mel,QLD, 3yr old Nikita, no. 2 due october