Hi Kellie and Hayley,
I am a young mum, 21, and i have a beautiful 3month old daughter.
I found out i was pregnant at 30weeks, and my ex was long gone (long story) I would like to encourage you both to be strong and realise that your beautiful baby is your biggest priority now.
Kellie, it is up to you what you decide to do in regards to your ex. He has the right to know that you are both going to become parents in 8months. But it is your choice.
Hayley, I can not begin to understand what you must be going through. I broke up with DD father as a result of him cheating and found out he was engaged to her weeks after we split. I guess men being asses is (unfortunatley) common occurence. Be strong and think about your DD best interests, whether u decide this will mean he is involved or not. If you can't get a straight answer out of him it must be very hard. Especially the other support letters. Go with your gut instincts and think about what is best for your daughter and yourself.
Being a single mum is not the end of the world girls! I hope you both have supportive families and people you can talk to about what is happening. WHEN (not if) i find someone i plan on having more children and still have all the dreams and goals i had before i had DD, and am determined to acheive them to provide the best future possbile for my DD. You WILL find someone who will love you and your child more than you can imagine!
My DDs father reacted very badly to the news he was to become a father and wanted nothing to do with us. I have not spoken to him, nor heard from him since i was 32weeks pregnant. I believe that we are both better off without him. He is not named on her b/certificate, nor do i collect child support from him. But once again, this was my choice, which was aided by his reaction/words and choices he made.
If you would both like to chat or would like to email me to talk my msn/email is [email protected]
I wish i could give you both a huge hug and tell you everything will be ok. When my DD was born, it was the most amazing experience and day of my life. No-one can take that away from me. Nothing will ever change the way i feel about my DD- she is my precious beautiful gift and i can not imagine my life without her. It is her fathers loss that he is missing out on the joy and wonder of becoming a parent.
I hope to talk to you both soon! HUGZ for u both.