Well, I'm back in the land of normality now LOL ... this last week certainly has been a very emotional one, as well as a busy one.
We had Nana's funeral service on Tuesday morning, and we got the good news on Thursday that we can bury her ashes at the soldiers' cemetery with Grandad. Dad was really stoked, so we're planning the interment for when we all gather again for my sister's wedding.
Anyway, Friday turned out to be a good day ... I went into town to my appt at Social Welfare, and didn't take Aidan with me, thinking that it wouldn't be a good idea to take him in considering the situation .... or so I thought.
When I got there, my case manager, Sarah says to me, "Where's Aidan?" and I told her that my mum and sisters were babysitting. She said "Oh that's a shame, Karen (Bodie's mum) was saying she was so looking forward to seeing Aidan today." Confused????? Yes. So was I!!
To cut a long story short, I passed Bodie's mum on the way out, as she was at the reception desk, and I said hi, being the polite young woman that I am She pulled me to one side, asking after Aidan, and then she's dragging me off to her locker before I know it, showing me photos of Aidan's brother and cousins. I asked her if she had spoken to Bodie, and she said she had had a phone call from him ... apparently he told her that there were more forms in the mail, and they were going in the wheelie bin, cya. (those forms were Aidan's birth cert forms to add the father's details on).
Anyhoo ... I showed her Bodie's note and she said that he had got it wrong. She meant to say that I couldn't contact her at work as its a govt dept, and they frown upon personal emails etc .... but she and her husband DID want to see Aidan, and get to know him. I was so confused!!! I told her that I had thought it was all so bizarre, and was relieved at the same time. So I will be getting in touch with her this week, and her and her husband are coming to see their grandson. I told her that I accept Bodie's decision not to be involved, but he will always be Aidan's dad, no matter who I end up with etc ... but that I also wanted to avoid contact with him for now, so I can move on with things. I told her that he has treated me like s**t and how tough my year's been, and I didn't want to see him again for awhile, if possible. She was fine with it, and said that her son has been known to treat his gf's like that ... I wasn't the first!!
We talked for ages, and I filled in a few gaps for her as it appears that Bodie hasn't told her and her husband absolutely everything. There's still more to sort out, but the main thing is that Aidan has his family back, and it looks as if he WILL get to know his cousins, aunt and uncles, and eventually meet his brother (who was up here last weekend on holiday). They look so much alike, but Riley (who is coming up 3) is blonder. He's just as beautiful as Aidan, and they certainly both have their dad's looks.
Aidan's birth certificate papers I sent Bodie have ended up in the rubbish, but although I'm disappointed, I guess I can always try again in the future, as Bodie can be added on anytime. But at least I have the proof from the paternity test, and I told Karen I will keep everything for Aidan to see when he is old enough, and even though I will not paint Bodie as the bad guy, I will leave it totally up to Aidan if he does want to see his dad at some stage - which looks now to be a slim possiblilty.
Sorry about the length in the end (!!) but was just so relieved and happy for Aidan that is HAS all worked out. Good things DO come to those who wait - yay!! Finally, some good Karma coming my way.
Hope all is well with everyone ... have missed you all. Will keep you all posted my friends!! xxx
Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)