I'm sure there will be an explanation why they haven't been in touch yet. I'll find out what it is next Friday.
I've got a funny feeling that Bodie has something to do it. Don't ask me why, but it's a really strong gut feeling I have got. He's done it before, so I wouldn't be surprised. I really don't have much faith left in him at the moment ... yet at the same time I think, he'll start taking responsibility now. Grrrrrrr men!!!!!! LOL
My lawyer still hasnt got back to me yet. It's getting frustrating because I want to get the custody sorted out and under way.
I'm going to approach Bodie soon about Aidan's child support - I plan on giving Bodie a choice about what to do. He originally wanted a private child support arrangement between us, which I had agreed to. I'm going to offer that choice to him first, but tell him that he has to sign a contract, and that we would review the amount every year ... seeing as Aidan will eventually go to daycare etc. And I plan on asking him to visit Aidan on his birthday and at Christmas. Its not a big ask, and I do hope he will agree to it. Bodie isnt interested in being a dad ... but what is 2 days out of the year? I'd be happy with that. As Aidan gets older, who knows, we could increase the visits.
If Bodie isnt interested in a private arrangement then I will go through the tax dept, and not bother with the rest. I do plan on sending Bodie photos of Aidan's progress tho ... we HAD agreed on that at least anyway.
The only thing I'm not sure of is the custody procedures. I know that it will go thru the court etc ... but I'm not sure how the judge will see it. Ive been told by a friend that the judges here are very pro-family, so it is possible that they may not buy Bodie's excuse of not wanting to be a father etc ... and force him into fortnightly visitation with Aidan. I'm not sure he'll like that. I always promised Bodie that if there was a slight hint of him showing interest in Aidan, then we would do it at his pace, and I wouldn't force it on him. But the Family Courts may see it differently. That would be a good thing, as every child needs their father, but I just hope that if they do see it that way, then Bodie will be positive about it. I cant have anything negative around Aidan ... he has had a positive upbringing so far, and is thriving.
I hope it's all over soon, so I can really get on with raising Aidan properly, and also, so I can get on with my life without Bodie. That's been the worst thing about all this, is that I haven't been able to move on from him properly ... but I'm slowly getting there, I'm happy to say! Slowly, but surely.
Well, thats my offload for the month LOL ... thanks for listening, and being there!! I've been really naughty tonight ... totally pigged out on an amazing Sarah Lee chocolate dessert with chocolate sauce!!!! Yummmmmm!!!!!!!!! I feel sooooo much better now!! wink
I'll keep you updated on developments.
Take care my dear friends smile
Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)