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If he refuses to be a father now, maybe he doesn't want to be a father at all?? Lock Rss

Still no results????!!!
hows aidan going? has he started to say mama yet!!! they always save the best name till last!! (well thats my theory anyway!!!) Emily is walking everywhere it is so cute to watch!!!
Nope, nothing yet!!! It's been 3 weeks.
Rang my lawyer today just to get an update, but haven't heard back from them either!
Oh well .... we march on!!

Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)

Hi Amber,
Good luck with it all, I'm like you can't handle waiting, but my fingers are crossed for you, hope it all hurries along. Good luck and great to see you are so positive about it all.

2 cuties 7/5/99 & 8/9/04

Thanks Mandy!
And good luck to you too .... I noticed the ETA is or has gone by!!
Hope all goes well for you!!!! All the very best!!!!

Lots of love ....

Ambs & Aidan xxxx smile

Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)

Aidan got the all clear from the paediatrician today. We don't have to go back, his breathing problem is getting so much better.
The paediatrician was quite impressed with Aidan's growth, and reckons that he is at the size now of an 8-9mth old! What DO they put in formula these days? No wonder he hasn't been fitting his 6mth clothes!
Anyway was good to hear that we won't have to go back to anymore specialists. Yay!!!
Well, it's the beginning of a new week, and still nothing from the lawyers today. We're getting close to waiting a month now. Saw Bodie today, but didn't get the chance to talk to him ... but I think he'll be starting to wonder what's taking so long. I'm hoping it won't go on for much longer, it's holding things up, which is the most frustrating part for me! Had my 1st run today in months, felt really good. have been keeping up my walking regularly since Aidan was born, but decided that it's time to get back into the running & get rid of these winter kilos!
On a sadder note, my only surviving grandma, who just turned 90 a week ago, is gravely ill, and we're not expecting her to live much longer. It's been coming for awhile, and we thought that last night was going to be it, but she's survived another day. So we'll see how the next few days go.

Anyway, I'm off for the night, & I'll let you know when the lawyers ring!

Take care my friends smile

Love Ambs xxxx

Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)

Imagine if you will .....

Amber running around her living room, doing somersaults and swinging from the light fittings and generally looking pretty damn happy with herself!

Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)

Oh, by the way, in case you hadn't guessed ...

WHOS THE DADDY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bodie is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

*little mini waves in celebration of me & aidan*

Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)

Oh amber!!!!!
i'm so happy for you and aidan!!!!!
i never doubted it for a minute though! im so happy for you that that is over!
bigs hugs to you and your gorgeous little man!!!!

love amanda!!
Hi Amber,

I'm new to this post and just read all your posts and what you've been going through. I'm 32 weeks pregnant and my partner left me when i found out i was pregnant. He has custody of his 12yr old son and didn't want the responsibility of another child. He is tight with money and very selfish so will only spend money on himself. I haven't seen him during the whole pregnancy. He too has a girlfriend and has turned nasty. He said the baby was his at first but now denies it. Despite this he has threatened to take my baby off me when she is born. How can they do this? I don't know what i have to do to get custody of my baby girl. I worry so much and she isn't even born yet. She's due on the 6th Nov although i have a feeling i'll be seeing her before then. I have great support from my family which is a good help. They tell me to forget about him but i worry i will hear from him after the birth. Should i beat him to it or just wait till i hear from him? i want my daughter to know her dad but don't want to cause her any pain. I have enough love to give her and have a great family. I really don't know what to do and it's a big worry for me. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Good luck to you amber. I hope i have as much strength as you. I admire you.

Jenni, mum of Shanaye born 13-11-2004.

CONGRATULATIONS!! I am so glad you FINALLY have the truth for Bodie to see in black and white. Must make him feel a bit stink for trying to deny it... but good job!
What happens next!

Mum to Maya Grace 02-03, Sienna & Mercedes 10-06

I have been following your story & now you & you wee man can get on with your life.
Take care

Hi Jenni-Lea
Well, I'm not sure really where to start except to say that I'm so sorry to hear that you're going thru this too.
I asked a lot of "what if" questions and was afraid of what would happen after the baby was born. So far, Bodie has only seen Aidan once, but because I have only just proven to him that he IS Aidan's father, I guess the second part of the saga is beginning. He only denied Aidan after he was born - he doesn't want the responisbility. Age has had a lot to do with his attitude aswell ... he's a few years younger than me. But it has all come down to the lack of responsiblity and the absolute selfishness that he has shown me throughout my pregnancy, and the first 6mths of Aidan's life.
I'm really glad you have your family's support, without mine, I would have fallen majorly into the doldrums. Try doing what I did in the end, distance yourself from the father, cut off all contact for now, and just concentrate on you and your baby. Babies can feel stress from the inside too, and do all you can to stop her from coming too early. If your ex tries to contact you, maybe designate your parents to do the talking for you? Maybe help ease your pain & stress.
My email address is
Feel absolutely free to email me anytime if you want to talk. I'll do my best to help you where I can.

Take care girly, and chin up. My thoughts are with you.

Ambs xxxxx

Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)

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