Thanks for the advice. I'm really sorry about your situation. It sucks huh?? I gave up on Aidan's father a long time ago, and although I know he may very well show interest in Aidan when he's older, I'm wary he'll do exactly what you're ex has done. My ex has another son, who is 18 mths older than Aidan, and he won't visit him either. It's really sad, but it's his loss. Both us girls haven't met and neither have Aidan and his half-brother, but I know they will meet one day.
I don't think I would have got by without the support of my dear family and friends either. That means more to me than they will ever know. At the moment, my ex's family is keeping their distance seeing as my ex and I have a paternity issue to sort out in the Family Court now, but once that is all sorted, they are more than happy to have Aidan become a part of their family. My ex's mum has been very kind, and I esp.understand her situation too, but at the end of the day, she just wants her grandson back, with or without her son. I've told her I don't want my ex involved at all as long as he has his current attitude. She has told me that my ex may come round when Aidan is older, which would be wonderful, but I would be absolutely devastated, like you, if he bonded with Aidan, then left again. Kids are so hurt so easily, and I know we can't protect them from it sometimes, but, I guess all we can do is be there for them with lots of love and hugs. You sound like you're doing a great job with your little girl, and by the looks of it you'll be due again soon, so all the best of luck with you new addition. If you ever want to chat, my email is firstname.lastname@example.org
I hope all goes well with your new baby!!!
Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)