Well, just an update on things .... as soon as I told you girls about the good news, I get the bad news!!
2 weeks ago (27/04 to be exact) I received a letter. Aidan's birth cert papers were unsigned (as expected), and there was a letter attached from my ex's mum. She said as follows...
Bodie has refused to sign Aidan's birth cert papers, stating that he doesn't think that he is Aidan's father, and doesn't want to be.
His gilrfriend, J* is well aware of the situation, and has seen the txt msg's you have sent him.
I am so sorry, Best wishes."
Well, I knew what the reaction was going to be from my ex, but didn't think he would deny Aidan's paternity to his mother's face. That was the biggest insult that anyone could ever throw at me - he's made me look bad to his parents, and I can just imagine what the girlfriend now thinks of me. I was not pleased that Bodie had shared our txt conversations/letters with her ... it has had nothing to do with her as far as I'mconcerned. Anyway, was rather peeved, and upset - ruined my birthday of all days, but once I calmed down, I wrote a letter back to my ex's mum, and said that I had expected Bodie to not sign the papers, and that after talking to my folks, have decided to leave things as they were for now. I wasn't happy about leaving things unresolved between everyone, but the more I fight Bodie over this the worse it's going to get. I told her that I just wanted to settle down and enjoy life with my son, and be the best mum I could to him. Also told her that if she & her husband ever wanted to visit Aidan, then they would be most welcome, and I promised her with my whole heart, that Aidan was hers too.
Well, I've tried moving on, but I'm not the sort of person who can walk away and leave things unfinished, so, I'm taking my lawyer's advice, and I'm going to go and file for paternity action against my ex. I don't really care about the child support, I just want my son to know who his father is (even if Bodie is nothing more than a name to him) & I want my son to know his granparents, because his grandmother wants to be involved with him. I can understand why she's taking her son's side, but she knows me well enough to know that I wouldn't lie to her about this. As I said, I'm very insulted that Bodie told her that he's not the father.
So. I'm taking action in the next couple of weeks - and I look forward to resolving everything, so that my ex's family can start enjoying Aidan, as they have missed out on a lot already. I'm expecting a bit of backlash from my ex, but I'm positive that I will get the outcome that I have hope for since Aidan was born.
Wish me luck!!!!!!! I'll keep you posted.
Hope all is well with you and your little ones smile
Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)