I have a 5 weeks old girl Lucy (my first) and am only just now starting to recover from the birth.
I had an episiotemy and 4 failed vacuum attempts then a C-Section. Basically, Lucy partly came out, got stuck and we had to pull her back in and take her out manually.
I had not read a thing about C-Sections and was completely unprepared for the pain that followed. Just getting out of bed was a task.
But the worst thing was the episiotemy. It has only healed in the last week and going to relieve myself of # 2's was the most painfull & eye watering experience I have ever had.
I have spent hours crying just out of disbelief of the pain, the labour was a piece of cake compared to this.
I also keep comparing my recovery with my two friends who already have children. They seemed to spring back to life straight away, fit back into their normal clothes and weren't stuck in their houses because they couldn't drive for 6 weeks. It seems so unfair, I am as healthy and the same body shape as them!
The reason she got stuck was that she was very big for my body (she was 9 pound 7). I am praying that my next baby is smaller as I feel as though I need to experience a vaginal birth, I feel as though I have been cheated (even though I had EVERY drug on offer to me!).
I suppose if the same thing happens next time I will be more prepared but emotionally I dont know how I will deal with it.
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