Firstly, I had a great relationship with my in-laws up until the day William was born. They were slightly interested in my pregnancy but when Will arrived, all hell broke loose. When they arrived at the hospital, there was no hello for me or their own son, but went straight to Will's cot and picked him up. Anyways ............
Things only got worse from there. Will was born by cs 1 week prior to Xmas and on Xmas day, we have now discovered that due to the in laws and wider family, my husband and I don't have a photo of us three on his first Christmas (I'm very very upset about this). They were constantly holding him all day and the only time I saw him was to breastfeed.
When I go to do something for Will or feed him when they are around and they are holding him or not holding him, the mother in law actually says to me "oh no, it's Alice's* turn to feed the baby". As you can imagine, we just love being told who can and can't feed our child.
It's a lot of little things that they say or do that get us really upset. I feel very mean if I stand up for myself or for William. My husband also gets upset but won't say anything or when he does say something, they don't listen or don't agree with him. I understand that being a Grandparent is an exciting time, but when they are around I don't feel like they respect our wishes for our child and how we want to parent him. My husbands sister "Alice"* is only 16 and I feel that they should pay as a little respect as William's parents and listen to what we want as we have never questioned or gone against their decisions which they have made for "Alice".
I don't know if I'm being paranoid or "sensitive" but I do know that not once has anyone beside my husband and the nurse said I'm/we're doing a great job with William.
Thanks for letting my vent!!