I am glad I found this I am part time step mum to 3 boys and dealing with DH's psyco ex, I am not being nasty or mean when I say she is psyco I mean she realy is mentaly ill. Dh and I have together as a couple since Nov06 and we married in Dec08 and even though DH never even lived with the ex and she is the one that ended everything she is still telling my DH "he needs to get over her" and " your feelings for that woman you live with are not real as you know you still love me" Like I said she is psyco.
Now I am worried because she takes everything out on the boys, basicaly she truley believes that my DH cant possilbly have feelings for any other person because she is the mother of his boys and that measn he HAS to love her, she uses them all the time against DH. We moved away due to DH's work but, we thought that maybe it would be better for the boys with less contact, she drills the boys before contact about not talking to me, not listening to me and was constantly abuseing them about thier father. She abuses them if they tell her they have a good time at their dads and as we were haveing them have the holidays and every 3rd weekend they were sufering a lot. We had hoped that with less contact she would move on and not abuse the boys about thier dad but, sadly it isnt just a case of her growing up and getting on with her life. She is insane and is getting worse. Now she will send text for me, saying " I am happy you are too old to have a baby" and " get used to me being part of your life your husband had sex with me and I gave him 3 beautiful boys"
Now my bigest worry is, what will she do if I am blessed and fall pregnant, I will be haveing an embryo transfer within the next few months. I was pregnant early last year but, sadly I lost the baby at that time we spoke to the boys about babies and they were realy excited that we were going tohave a baby, they did order 3 girls, one each for them to hold but, 3 weeks later they were sad and the oldest one says to me " if you have a baby it could be my cousin couldnt it" after sitting and talking with him he told me, " mum said any baby you have wont be my brother or sister it will be a B*******D and a C****T he was very upset and crying, I sat him on my knee and explaine how it all works and it could be our special secret" it cheered him up.
But, now she is at it again and only 1 of the 3 boys will talk to thier dad on the phone, the oldest one wont speak, this only happens if they have had a beating, we are due to have them 2nd July. I dont know what to do any more DH is so worried and upset he feels it is allhis fault. He cant aford court costs any more, we have saved all the text she has sent, we now have it in text about her always haveing the phone on loud speaker when he rings, that is another way for her to control the boys and my DH, that is why they dont talk. We have video and photos to prove they arenot afriad of us and do relax and enjoy thier time with us but, we dont know where to turn now, we need help to save these boys from thier own mother. Can any one help us at all. we in QLD the boys in VIC