Hi Maree, My 21 month old daughter wakes once or twice through the night wanting to be picked up and screams hysterically until we do and this often ends in us putting her into our bed - a big no-no, I know. I tried controlled crying last night and this lasted from midnight till 1.30am and she did go to sleep in her cot but is this normal for them to cry for 1 and a half hours? Putting her to bed at night also results in screaming matches every night, but I never pat her to sleep. It's really frustrating because we don't know what we're doing wrong and she used to sleep perfectly well. She does have a dummy and is reliant on this to go to sleep. Do you think we should just bite the bullet and get rid of it and try to fix the sleep problem all at the one time with controlled crying and no dummy? Please help.