Don't you dare feel guilty. You obviously wanted to breast feed your baby but couldn't. I was the same. I only lasted 6 days when Daniel dehydrated and had to be taken to newborn care. It scared the life out of me and my hubbie. After persisting for a gruelling 3 hour feeding session the following day I decided that formula was best for him - at least he took that without a problem. Yes, the guilt you feel for not doing the "right" thing is enourmous at first. Once you get over this stage of guilt there is more to come! When your baby starts getting around and knocks itself on furniture or has falls. Then when you take them to the shops people look at you like you are child bashers. The best thing to do is look at them in the eyes and challenge them to dare say anything! Some people will never have anything nice to say. Look at this way - you have a beautiful, healthy baby and really that is all that counts.
with my first i stopped breastfeeding at 3 months as i went back to university fulltime and worked. i found it too hard to express so i decided to put my son on formula.
he took to it so well and was a happier baby as he was fuller then when i was breast feeding.
my partners family went crazy at me but i stuck to it and my son who is 2 now is smart, happy and healthy. i dont think he missed out on any nutrients or that our bonding suffered in anyway.
stick to your guns, in the end your the mother and we all know that we would never do anything that would harm our babies so bottle feeding cant be that bad.
Staci, SA, 2yr boy & pregnant (EDD 9/6/03)
mum (29) to girl 1996, boy 2001 & boy 2002
When I changed her to the bottle, I then heard the same comments as you mentioned.
Do what is right for you and your baby. Don't listen to others who interfer. Actually, its quiet liberating to tell them where to put their "advice'.
anna, chch,17mth girl
I never ever wanted to breast feed, right from the word go i said no way, i bought bottles and everything before our son was born, i took everything to the hospital with me including the formula, i found the hospital staff all very supportive, one of them even said it was better than the breast, (thats a first), when i started going to my child & youth parent group thats when i got negatives. The midwife there treated my like a lepper, it didn't worry me tho, this is my body and my life so therefore MY CHOICE! You do whats best for you and your child.
I am about eight weeks with my next pregnancy, and I intend to feed for as long as possible, I will be leaving my options open however.
mum to Alija 7 mnths
Mum(29) - DS 7yr, DD 4yr & DD 2yr
I was unable to breastfeed any longer due to my lil one killing my boobs (i ended up bleeding and scabbing oouuuchchch) - (and yes i was doing everything correctly) But when i switched to bottle WOW!!!!!! how much better more convienient...
Now my second, i produced nothing i didnt even leak a lil bit during the pregnanacy.... so was unable to even attempt.... but i didnt mind...
I am now on my third pregnancy, this baby has a different father and has asked me to try brestfeeding..... But when i really sit down and think about it..... Im not compfortable doing it, i hide from everyone im not one of those people that can just bring it out any where you know....... I discuss this matter with him alot, cause it is a big thing for him being his first "Baby" (he was not around the girls til my youngest was 1.5 years)
Everyone has drilled him since finding out about the pregnancy...... BREASTFEED FOR THE BABY ITS SAFER BLA BLA BLA>>>>>>>
Im sorry but i have two bottle babies already, and they are healthier then ever i find that they dont get sick my family has breastfeed babies and i notice they get sick alot more often......
IT EVERYONE TO THEM SELVES AND AS LONG AS YOUR BABY IS HEALTHY AND HAPPY DONT LISTEN TO NOONE ELSES OPINION
One thing I have noticed that makes it harder to feel good about whatever decision you make is the judgemental attitudes of some of the health professionals. My plunket nurse was very pro my choice, but very anti one of the other ladies in my plunket coffee group. She had stopped breastfeeding and gone onto formula for her twins, the fact that her supply dried up completely didn't seem to register with this lady!
A lot of women don't have a choice, which she didn't seem to understand, and there are always various factors behind the choices we make that may not be obvious to outsiders. The main thing is our children are happy and healthy, and that we ourselves are satisfied we are doing our best.
Rachelle, NZ, son George 10.12.02, Ian 15.06.04
Aidan is coming up 6 weeks now, and he is doing wonderfully. He's gaining weight rapidly, and he's healthy and happy, and we have bonded really well. I'm sad I can't breastfeed, but I'm happy my baby is doing so well now, and my midwife and the hospital staff could not have been more supportive & I have had no negative reactions as yet. I was a formula baby, as Mum had problems as well, and I have turned out perfectly healthy.
Yes, some women can do it and some can't; the most important thing is your baby is happy & healthy and goes to sleep with a full belly!!! I know now that he's a very satisfied little boy ... and I feel better that I can also now look after myself properly - babies need a healthy mum too!!
Take care everyone smile
Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)