mother to Hannah born August 9 2003
i didnt want my daughter to have a dummy either. i've seen how hard they can be to get the child to give it up. but when she was born she was taken straight into the nicu. i went in there on the 4th night to feed her at 3am and they had given her a dummy without asking me. all they said was we had no choice and she wouldnt settle. and i yelled at him and said "why didnt u wake me up and i wouldve bought in my boobs" they said i needed my rest and they didnt think it was worth waking me for. and it was a BLUE DUMMY . they couldve atleast given her a pink or a white one ,I was SO MAD that day.i tried taking it off her but its now a pain in the butt. she screams and her little heart races . so i give up now and let her have one.
I also have about 5 different types of teats and bottles which i will never use. i think that dummies and bottles are a personal choice for the mum and not any old ones will do.
To cut a long story short , i feel the same way as you Jade. I'm a pretty tactless person and i tell people whether i like things or not.
DD 13/11/03 -DD 11.11.05 - DS 17.4.08
lisa, QLD, mummy to daughter Dec 02
baby boy, 12/03
I had a couple of dummies given to me, but just because someone gives you a gift does not mean you have to use it. I had alot fo things given to me I would never use. I think you should let the child decide if they need a dummy or not. I had two neice's and a nephew who would not touch a dummy, BUT then I had my son!! He was born 9lb 5oz by emergancy c-sect. I had NO milk for 6 days, all he wanted to do was feed. I was up all night hospital feeding him because the lactation nurse didn't want to use a dummy. I would feed him for half an hour he would go to sleep, she would take him away and he would be back in 15 mins. because he would not settle, she said he was still hungry! This went on for 13 hours, It started at 6pm and they did't stop bringing him back till 7am. The next day I fed him a bottle, he had 90mls at 3days old in one sitting but, would still not settle. I was told not to give him any more food, so I used a dummy. He slept fot 3 and 1/2 hours!!! Now, he is 22 months and only uses a dummy to go to sleep and it is getting less and less. So good luck to you if you don't need one, but don't not use something just because you don't like it, try and let the baby decide.
I have been pretty lucky as my baby doesn't like a dummy, which was great for me as I was hoping not to use one. I guess though if I had a baby that would only be comforted with a dummy, I probably would have used one. Even if was just to keep me sane.
Mum to DD 08.08.03 and DS 12.05.05
mum of 3 boys aged 11, 13 and 14
Narelle, Eilish 5th june 2002 TTC since dec 2002
Anyway, thought you might find this useful (something I found on an american website):
To wean babies/toddlers off dummies, cut the tip off - apparently it doesn't give the same suction/effect and they gradually learn not to like it.