My son doesnt understand anything I say, which is other worry I have looked after and been aroung children my whole life and they have done so much more then this...
Cutting out his bottles I can do... not without a fight!!!
i definately think cutting bottles is 1st step and will make life easier once bubs comes,
trying lumpier foods, and even try bits of grated cheese carrot apple on high chair and let him go and see what he does if u are watching him but he doesnt think you are, u may be surprised,
I wouldnt be feeding him urself, make it that he has to feed himself or he goes hungry, it worked for my DS2-he was in love with his bottles and he wouldnt eat coz he new he would get them(phase out bottles but dont give them too him at meal times, say morning and afternoon tea times to cut it to 2 bottles then id only have it as in the morning after breakfast)
hope this helps a bit