Hi! I am a single mum-to-be, first baby due in 3 weeks. Am very excited, but have had a rough time with the father.
We had only been seeing each other for a period of 2 months, when our little "surprise" came along. Things were ok at first - he accepted the baby, and offered his support (financially) & said he wanted to get to know the baby after the birth. But he hasn't been a big part of the pregnancy & did not want to be at our 1st ultrasound which I had at 18 weeks. He has been kept up-to-date on doctor appts, any tests I've had etc & he has copies of babe's 1st photos. I got sick & tired of his excuses for not coming to see me to plan ahead for our baby, so told him what I thought, and how I felt, & he retaliated by demanding a DNA test!! Why??
Things got pretty nasty (on his part) & I've now chosen to distance myself from him for now to lessen the stress. I'm hoping that things will get better once the baby is born. He's scared of being a father (he won't admit it though), and I know he won't go thru with the test as he knows he's the daddy. I really do have faith in him still - he would be a great Dad. We were getting on so well & making progress before he did this. I know we will never be together as a couple, but I do want to raise this baby with him as friends, which I know we can be.
Do you think it's worth patching things up before our babe comes or after? Mind you, if he keeps up the current attitude he has, & keeps being a jerk, I may have to cut him off, and it would break my heart to do that - baby's need their daddy's too!
If there is anyone in a similar situation or can offer some advice, please, get in touch. I look fwd to hearing from you.
Ambs, 27, NZ smile
Ambs, Mummy to Aidan (born March 04)