This decision could be difficult for you. Like you I have married a man from the sub-continent. My husband is from Pakistan and I have come from a middle-eastern background, but we were both basically raised in Australia.
Have you met his parents/family? What religion is he?
I have been married for almost a year and I can tell you one thing - I have become completely anti-Paki! Don't get me wrong (and I hope I haven't offended anyone from the sub-continent) but it's a completely different culture. I just CAN NOT come to grips with it. I personally have found it extremely difficult.. and I am just SO glad my hubby is more religious than cultural (unlike his family). His family are very, very accepting of me and they really are wonderful people - but culture ruins everything. As a daughter-in-law I am extremely pressured and if you want to talk to me about it you can email me.
I don't really ever want to go to Pakistan and I will raise my children so that they clearly know the difference between islam and culture. I've noticed that many pakis/indians have a hard time distinguishing the difference between culture and religion.
Lastly - taking your little girl to india won't really affect her at that age. It's when she gets older I'd be more concerned. But make sure you go with him...
If you want to talk - you can email me at [email protected]
Samira ~ 23/Sydney. Mom to Zayn born 26th July