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I could not even imagine myself for not being a mother. I always wanted one large family like my mother has. It is not so easy to feel like the way I was feeling. I really figured out hard to getting pregnant in life.
I bought some of the agencies and I have been trying really hard to get pregnant. I read several stories of infertility and I have been trying figuring out on the internet. It was so inspiring that some woman made it and I believe I can do that too.
Anyone can help me here?
Hey there Melisa! I hope you're doing good. I deeply empathize with you, dear. I know you're through a tough time. It is very difficult to accept that you won't be able to give birth. Is your infertility unexplained? Why don't you think about IVF or surrogacy? These modern methods are trying to make our lives easier. Both are very trendy nowadays. IVF is a process in which the egg and sperm are fertilized outside the body and then they are injected into your uterus. After this, it is the same as natural pregnancy. It really helps a lot of women getting pregnant. Surrogacy is a process where the surrogate mother carries your baby in her womb. Both the methods are equally convenient. I hope you make a wise choice. Good Luck!
Hey! hope you are doing good. It is very difficult to believe that we cannot conceive babies. I have been through such hard time. I started looking for other ways when I came to know about infertility. We had options like surrogacy and IVF. I was not in favour because it is a bit hard and not so successful. I chose surrogacy on my husbands choice. We went to a clinic and we found our surrogate there. She gave birth to healthy baby. We are happy parents now. We have our baby and belongs to us genetically. Hope this would really help you.
Your first appointment will be a good discussion. They will take a history from both of you and talk through the tests you may need in coming months. Even if your husband's semen analysis is okay this doesn't mean that they will only consider you. He will probably be asked at some point to give another sample. You are in it together so they will always prefer to talk to you both. It also helps as any slightly abnormal results I got sent me into hysterics and total over reaction where as my husband listened properly and responded calmly. He's been always awesome! They will want to see you both for the first appointment but don't tend to mind for further appointments. Most tests are covered by the NHS. But some treatments are only available on the NHS if neither of you have children from a previous relationship. It requires the two of you to make the baby so at times they will need to discuss your partner's results with you so.will need consent to share this (even just confirming his semen analysis is fine with you is a data protection issue of not). They will ask you to sign consent forms for this on your first visit. The list of tests your doctor will likely request after seeing you: Progesterone CD21 Blood Test. LH, FSH, Estrogen, Progesterone & Testosterone CD2-5 Blood Test. Ultrasound on Uterus. HSG Scan. Hope this helps.
samantha98 wrote:
Hey there Melisa! I hope you're doing good. I deeply empathize with you, dear. I know you're through a tough time. It is very difficult to accept that you won't be able to give birth. Is your infertility unexplained? Why don't you think about IVF or surrogacy? These modern methods are trying to make our lives easier. Both are very trendy nowadays. IVF is a process in which the egg and sperm are fertilized outside the body and then they are injected into your uterus. After this, it is the same as natural pregnancy. It really helps a lot of women getting pregnant. Surrogacy is a process where the surrogate mother carries your baby in her womb. Both the methods are equally convenient. I hope you make a wise choice. Good Luck!

I've shared this on another thread, so will paste here. Nowadays a lot of couples move to Ukraine for surrogacy. And there are lots of reasons for this. Firstly, 'cause of its surrogacy friendly law. It favours the IP more than the surrogate. Secondly, 'cause of more affordable prices. BUT IP parents must provide a doctor’s statement that surrogacy is a necessary option for one of the following medical reasons:
Absence of uterus.
Deformation of cavity of uterus or cervix of the uterus (either congenital or due to surgical interference or non-malignant neoplasm that makes pregnancy impossible).
Structural-morphological or anatomical changes of endometrium that causes loss of receptivity, synechia of cavity of uterus that are not treatable/correctable.
Grave somatic diseases that do not have influence on health of a future child but make pregnancy jeopardize health or life of a patient.
At least 4 or more failed IVF attempts that involved good quality embryos that have been conceived as result of multiple IVF attempts.
In addition to these medical requirements, IPs must be legally married and have a notarized copies of their passports and a marriage certificate with an apostille stamp.
Assisted conception is for everyone. You just have to be brave enough to take a decision. The procedure to follow is that first of all you get your check up done. They explain to you the picture. Then, based on that, they suggest what's best for you. There are many methods, and there are many solutions to these problems. I hope this helps you out.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. You shouldn't give up hope. Yes, you can go for that method too! There are many methods. You've got IVF and IUIs, and surrogacy is also an option. However, you can do your research regarding these methods, but only a fertility clinic can help you make a solid decision. Good luck to you.
RebecaM wrote:
Assisted conception is for everyone. You just have to be brave enough to take a decision. The procedure to follow is that first of all you get your check up done. They explain to you the picture. Then, based on that, they suggest what's best for you. There are many methods, and there are many solutions to these problems. I hope this helps you out.

Although a woman may need just one or two therapies to restore fertility, it's possible that several different types of treatment may be needed before she's able to conceive. Firstly, stimulating ovulation with fertility drugs. Fertility drugs are the main treatment for women who are infertile due to ovulation disorders. These medications regulate or induce ovulation. One should talk with the doctor about fertility drug options (Including the benefits and risks of each type.) Secondly, Intrauterine insemination - During IUI, healthy sperm are placed directly in the uterus around the time the woman's ovary releases one or more eggs to be fertilized. Depending on the reasons for infertility, the timing of IUI can be coordinated with your normal cycle or with fertility medications. Finally, surgery to restore fertility. Uterine problems such as endometrial polyps, a uterine septum or intrauterine scar tissue can be treated with hysteroscopic surgery.
Many women are concerned about having multiples after IVF treatments. So, here are some facts on the point our Dr at bio texcom told us: Chances for having twins don’t increase because of undergoing assisted reproductive treatments. Monozygotic twin pregnancy occurs when an embryo splits into twins at some time very early, which results in two identical twins which are genetically identical. As for non-identical twins, they develop in a different way. They are the result of two different eggs that have been fertilized by the same sperm cycle, which result in genetically different embryos. After years of strugglings I realize I've read and heard too much about all this – lol. Good luck, ladies, may god bless you.
Natashaa23 wrote:
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. You shouldn't give up hope. Yes, you can go for that method too! There are many methods. You've got IVF and IUIs, and surrogacy is also an option. However, you can do your research regarding these methods, but only a fertility clinic can help you make a solid decision. Good luck to you.

If IVF with donor eggs doesn’t work, I would suggest to use a gestational surrogate to carry a child for you. Whilst this procedure the cycle of the biological mother is synchronised with the cycle of a surrogate mother. One should follow all doctors' instructions. In case of self-treatment or violation of the treatment protocol, the clinic may cancel the cycle and terminate the contract!! The date of the pick up is scheduled by the doctor in charge of the program. In case the biological mother undergoes hormonal stimulation and is being prepared for egg retrieval, the second visit may take up to 10 days. If we are talking about surrogacy using own eggs it is not recommended to leave the same day. So things to be expected during pregnancy monitorying: Monthly ultrasound checks from the 12th week of pregnancy. Reports along with video and/or pictures will be send the same or the next day. (Trisomy 13, 18, 21 - on the 12th week of pregnancy. Trisomy 18, 21 - on the 16th week of pregnancy.) A reputable clinic will guide you through all stages of the process. It'll help you with all the legal aspects. From the day of delivery they'll offer the services to take the best care of your newborn. On the whole, opting for surrogacy, takes off much of the burden from the mom's to be shoulders. It has a lot of benefits for IP. That's why if OE and DE IVF isn't working for you, I'd recommend looking seriously at surrogacy route.
Cathymccartney098 wrote:
This way you will forever be in doubt. I think you should go see a proper doctor about this. Get some fertility tests done if you have to. You will know what the problem is. I hope it's not something serious and easily fixable. Don't lose hope. Things will work out I'm sure.

Thought this might be helpful for those in search.
Male fertility requires that the testicles produce enough healthy sperm, and that the sperm is ejaculated effectively into the woman's vagina and travels to the egg. Tests for male infertility attempt to determine whether any of these processes are impaired. You may have a general physical exam, including examination of your genitals. Specific fertility tests may include:
Semen analysis. Your doctor may ask for one or more semen specimens. Semen is generally obtained by masturbating or by interrupting intercourse and ejaculating your semen into a clean container. A lab analyzes your semen specimen. In some cases, sperm may be tested for in the urine.
Hormone testing. You may have a blood test to determine the level of testosterone and other male hormones.
Genetic testing. Genetic testing may be done to determine whether there's a genetic defect causing infertility.
Testicular biopsy. In select cases, a testicular biopsy may be performed to identify abnormalities contributing to infertility and to retrieve sperm to use with assisted reproductive techniques, such as IVF.
Imaging. In certain situations, imaging studies such as a brain MRI, bone mineral density scan, transrectal or scrotal ultrasound, or a test of the vas deferens (vasography) may be performed.
Other specialty testing. In rare cases, other tests to evaluate the quality of the sperm may be performed, such as evaluating a semen specimen for DNA abnormalities.
Tests for women.
You may have a general physical exam, including a regular gynecological exam. Specific fertility tests may include:
Ovulation testing. A blood test measures hormone levels to determine whether you're ovulating.
Hysterosalpingography - evaluates the condition of your uterus and fallopian tubes and looks for blockages or other problems. X-ray contrast is injected into your uterus, and an X-ray is taken to determine if the cavity is normal and ensure the fluid spills out of your fallopian tubes.
Ovarian reserve testing. This testing helps determine the quality and quantity of the eggs available for ovulation. This approach often begins with hormone testing early in the menstrual cycle.
Other hormone testing. Other hormone tests check levels of ovulatory hormones, as well as pituitary hormones that control reproductive processes.
Imaging tests. Pelvic ultrasound looks for uterine or fallopian tube disease. Sometimes a hysterosonography is used to see details inside the uterus that are not seen on a regular ultrasound.
Depending on your situation, rarely your testing may include:
Hysteroscopy. Based on your symptoms, your doctor may request a hysteroscopy to look for uterine or fallopian tube disease. During hysteroscopy, your doctor inserts a thin, lighted device through your cervix into your uterus to view any potential abnormalities.
Laparoscopy. This minimally invasive surgery involves making a small incision beneath your navel and inserting a thin viewing device to examine your fallopian tubes, ovaries and uterus. A laparoscopy may identify endometriosis, scarring, blockages or irregularities of the fallopian tubes, and problems with the ovaries and uterus.
Genetic testing. Genetic testing helps determine whether there's a genetic defect causing infertility.
Not everyone needs to have all, or even many, of these tests before the cause of infertility is found. You and your doctor will decide which tests you will have and when.
I can understand how you are feeling right now. It can be exhausting and overwhelming sometimes. If you have survived it till know then you’ve got what it takes sail through it. Stay positive and hopeful. People may not understand but may mean well when they talk. On personal level I realized that having some information about my condition was good to manage things better..
I’m so sorry you've found yourself here. But the good news is that you’ve got more options. My advice in your case is that you ask your doctor for further tests to check for the cause behind this. What about your partner’s semen sample, if any? Ask your GYN/OB about it, but probably you should consider moving to surrogacy or at least egg donation, since after that many IVF and IUI cycles your body has been through too much stimulation. Nevertheless, ask your doctor for detailed information, as he/she is the one who best knows what your case is.
If it turns out to be surrogacy path for you, I thought this might help to grasp the main idea of treatment stages and time outlines.#
The initial consultation is to be scheduled at least 1 week ahead and contains the following activities:
A set of tests depending on the program (fasting is mandatory).
Consultation with a fertility specialist who will be in charge of your program (in case of stimulation you will need to have the transvaginal ultrasound check done).
Consultation with a manager who will guide you through the program step by step.
Signing of contracts.
First payment (if you are taking medications for stimulation from the clinic, the medications are to be paid in cash on the day of consultation).
Before any initial consultation you will receive the Guidelines for the Initial Consultation – failure to follow these recommendations may affect the initial consultation in a negative way.
After you sign contracts and make the first payment, the medical team starts the selection process that includes:
Initial pre-selection by the local coordinator.
Consultation of the fertility specialist in Bio texcom in Kiev.
Consultation of a psychologist.
Legal consultation and verification of documents.
screening for possible addictions (urine and blood tests).
This check-up process, including all necessary tests and exams, takes about 1 month.
The cycle of egg donor or the biological mother is synchronised with the cycle of a surrogate mother. According to your contract you have to follow all doctors instruction. In case of self-treatment or violation of the treatment protocol, the clinic may cancel the cycle and terminate the contract.
The date of the pick up is scheduled by the doctor in charge of the program.
The Intended Parents are informed about it beforehand (at least 5 days before).
If the Intended Parents wish to use previously frozen sperm sample for fertilisation they shall notify the program coordinator about that by email no later than 24 hours before the procedure
If it is the second/further attempt and more than 2.5 months has passed since your last blood test in the clinic, please be ready to have your blood test repeated, and that means fasting in the morning
In case the biological mother undergoes hormonal stimulation and is being prepared for egg retrieval, the second visit may take up to 10 days.
If we are talking about surrogacy using own eggs it is not recommended to leave the same day. Flying the following day is fine.
The rules for sperm donation are similar as for the initial consultation – a man needs to abstain from ejaculation from 3 to 5 days before.
The second payment (according to your contract) is to be made on this day if in cash, prior to this day if by the bank transfer.
After fertilisation the embryo development is monitored by our embryology unit.
The embryo transfer takes place on the 5th day as we are transferring the blastocysts.
You will receive the protocol of embryo cultivation and transfer within 3 working days after the embryo transfer.The HCG test takes place 2 weeks after the embryo transfer. The surrogate mother has her test in Bio texcom. The results of the test are known the day after the test. Please, do read on..
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