Hi Annette, reading your story brought bad all the bad memories of trying to get our daughter Jorja to sleep thru the night (unsuccessfully!!) - until 3 weeks ago. Jorja is now 9mths old and sleeps thru 6 out of 7 nights from 6.30pm to 5.30am. We were at our wits end when I went to see a clinic nurse. She basically said that we were doing everything wrong - rocking her, pacing the hallways with her, feeding her thru the night, letting her sleep in our bed etc. I couldn't see how we could do anything differently but alas there was hope!! I watched a video called 'A Good Night's Sleep' - available thru most clinic health places. Basically sleeping is a learned thing and we weren't teaching Jorja right. What I found out and have used every night since is this - the feed, play, sleep routine. You must have a routine. I give Jorja her solid food at 5pm. Play for 1 hour, bath at 6pm, play for 20 mins, bottle and then into bed by 6.30pm AWAKE! Jorja sleeps on her tummy and has music playing (Norah Jones is the selection this week!). I stand over her and pat her on the bum for 2 minutes. Walk out of the room for 2 minutes and let her cry. 4 minutes in, 4 minutes out. 6 in, 6 out. 8 in, 8 out and so on. She is usually asleep on the 2 minute pat but some babies are persistant. We NEVER pick her up once she is in her cot (unless this is a problem - vomitting etc). We don't look at her and we don't talk to her once she is in her cot. It was really hard the first couple of nights as she was so used to being picked up the minute she cried. But after night 2, she slept thru the night - yeah! I would definately recommend this routine to you. I can go into more detail if you like in another email but the main points are the feed, play, sleep routine, the 2,4,6,8 minute routine and don't pick your baby up thru the night. It seems mean but believe me, most babies will thank you for it if they could.
Hope this helps,
BJ, Qld, Mum to Jorja