Tammy, My little boy started day care last week for 2 days a week. His centre said that it will probably take at least a month for him to settle maybe two because he is there for a short time and he has been home with me for the last 15 months. It is tuff though as he is unsettled and doing all the things your little girl is doing. Hubby and I ended up having to move his cot back into our room so we could all get some sleep, as we were only getting 2 hours a night for a week, he is sleeping through again. I wish I could give you an answer but I can't. I hope things get better soon, as I know how hard it is. My little boys clings to me and screams when I leave, it takes him about 1 hour to calm down and then he is happy again. He also doesn't eat but will have a bottle so I have given day care persmission to give him as many bottles as he needs during the day which is normally only 3 220mls, he is normally on 3 bottles a day but hey 5 is fine if he happy. Good Luck, it will get better for both us I am sure.
1 wonderful boy 6 and another on the way