Am I having a bad effect on my Girls I have just come out that I have PND

[rebecca.hall]

I have 2 baby Girls they are both very very loud screamers and I have not been coping very well with it. I get cranky at them and end up yelling myself.
The eldest is 19 months and is very attached to me and is always screaming at me and chucking tantrums if she dosen't get her way and the youngest is 8 and half months teething and is Hyper she is constantly on the go she has been trying to walk for several months and gets around the tables and chairs.
I am scared that because I am very stressed and not myself that it could impact them when they get older is there anyone out there that has any advice please

[Lisa_Jem]

Oh my goodness, with such a small age gap I'd be surprised if you didnt get stressed and occasionally yell! My girls are 5 1/2 and 2 3/4 yrs (so nearly 3 years apart) and I far more frequently than I'd like find myself yelling at them (mostly the elder one actually). I know it does affect them as she will yell right back at me. I know I have to stop but sometimes it seems she's just trying to get a reaction - yes, I'm the adult and I should stop but sometimes I just cant! Sorry I dont have any advice, but know that you're not alone, try not to feel too guilty, we all do the best we can with the resources (physical and emotional) that we have, and remember to ask for help if you need it. Sometimes putting the kids somewhere safe and just going outside for a few minutes to calm down can help, or 'phone a friend' to vent! Best of luck!

[rebecca.hall]

 

Lisa_Jem, on 18 March 2010 - 10:08 AM, said:

Oh my goodness, with such a small age gap I'd be surprised if you didnt get stressed and occasionally yell! My girls are 5 1/2 and 2 3/4 yrs (so nearly 3 years apart) and I far more frequently than I'd like find myself yelling at them (mostly the elder one actually). I know it does affect them as she will yell right back at me. I know I have to stop but sometimes it seems she's just trying to get a reaction - yes, I'm the adult and I should stop but sometimes I just cant! Sorry I dont have any advice, but know that you're not alone, try not to feel too guilty, we all do the best we can with the resources (physical and emotional) that we have, and remember to ask for help if you need it. Sometimes putting the kids somewhere safe and just going outside for a few minutes to calm down can help, or 'phone a friend' to vent! Best of luck!

Thanks I just hope it gets better soon