hey ladies,
just wondering how everyone else feels about their sex life as parents?
i'm not very happy with mine... is that bad to say?
my sex drive has had a very HUGE drop off since becoming a mum 21mths ago. i still like sex & love having sex with my partner, but it's so hard to find the energy...
sometimes when i do find the energy, miss vagina doesn't want to come to the party & that is such a downer, as it really hurts my partners feelings & it doesn't matter what i say to him, he still thinks it's his fault, but she's got a mind of her own...
anyone else out there feeling the same? any suggestions as to how i can find the energy & get miss vagina to join the party?

I was thinking about making a similar post the other day, my partner wants me to spontaneous, ravish him and crave sex, like i did pre baby, but seriously how do you shut the baby noise off?

Everytime his mum offers to look after DD its in our house, so what do we get a motel? and we cant afford one sad

My partner complains we are on time limit and its ram bam thank you mam. Well its not my fault he chooses the end off DDs sleep cos hes decided to talk about the lack of sex instead of just having sex.

But one thing i have noticed, i ran out of pill and i chose not to go get more, and my sex drive seems to be picking up pace.....

i love that wam bam thankyou mam!! it's soo true. & they do always pick the wrong time. talking, talking, talking!! over talking about how little sex we have, when really we should be using that time for getting busy.
thanx for your response. it's good to know that i'm not alone.
i to went back off the pill & it worked for a while, but the week before my period i'm always super dry. so there's pretty much two weeks out of a month of no sex... life is tough hey!! maybe i should talk to a doctor & see if i can do something about miss vagina.

i love that little saying to it made me smile. i had a friend who said they had a specific time they would do it all the time.
its weird i actually find my man so attractive now hes a dad this is our first and im pregnant again could explain the hormones. but were not as spontanious as we use to be, i was the nutty one and then just lost it. now its back on hehe. but we usually most nights if hes not tired before we go to bed and DS1 is sleeping. and it sure helps me sleep better afterwards too so better sleep for me smile

It's so hard cause we are both so tired all the time and I am always worried about waking up the kids (I can't seem to keep quiet wink) We definitely do it less often now.

I thought it was just us, so I am relieved to hear that we are not the only ones.

Hopefully DD will be off the booby and able to spend the night at the grandparents place soon!

i know it can be hard to find the time and energy with little ones running around. our daughter is 2.5 years old, we try to put her to bed by 8.00pm every night, so we have our time after 8 (most nights)

also try to keep it fun, when the little one has gone to bed, go for a cuddle on the back lawn, in the shower, shed LOL (you get my drift)
by making it fun, you may feel the burst of energy and excitement, and your hubby will too.

if you just don't feel in the mood, it dosen't have to be a sexual thing, just a nice cuddle and chat on the couch with no t.v, or foot or back rub. these things can help reconnect again, and just give you back some "couple time", as we all do get lost in all the house cleaning, teething, toilet training, sleeping issues e.t.c that comes with parenthood

I know this is a bit late but I wanted to check if this topic was already posted first. I feel the exact same way. My partner understands that its probably hormonal but still takes it a bit personal (which I wish he didn't). I just can't seem to ever be in the mood. Our son is 6 months old and I feel like we have sex 2 times a month. I really wish we could do it more often but I just never really want to. I used to be the one who always wanted to have sex and no its a complete turn around. Any suggestions on what to do to try and get in the mood??