Im not sure if Ive put this in the right section or not.....

So a really good friend of mine is 5 weeks pregnant. This is her 7th pregancy and the last 6 have all been miscarried, usually at about 8 weeks. She has also had several failed IVF rounds aswell. sad

Without going into to much detail about her circumstances I was wondering if any of you ladies have been through simmilar situations could give me some advice on how I should be around her.

Im sooooo excited for her but part of me is also holding my breath for her too. I had a wonderful talk to her the other day and she's so positive even knowing the odds are against her at the moment and she is happy to talk about things but I cant help but feel like Im going to say the wrong thing... its akward and hard to explain (Im not sure I can even get out what i mean in this post?!).

Basically what would you want me to say and not to say to you (if that makes sense?). I dont want to say nothing because I've got every finger and toe crossed in hope that this pregnancy will progress, and dont want to pretend its not happening because If this is how Im feeling the I can only begin to imagine what its like for her... thats why I'm asking you guys if you dont mind...

Sorry if this is hard to understand Im really struggling with my words!

I've had a few miscarriages (not as many as your friend) and I think that if she is only 5weeks and has told you she is pregnant than she really trusts you and wants your support. I think you should be able to talk about her pregnancy as normal but not mention the possibility of a m/c as she obviously knows her chances, unless she brings it up.

If she didn't want to talk about being pregnant then I don't think she would have told you until everything was ok.

I think she needs someone to talk to about it all and share her concerns and fears and just try to reassure her that everything is ok.

If the pregnancy does end in miscarriage then she will need your support, especially if she hasn't told a lot of people. I found my miscarriages that no one knew about really hard as I couldn't talk to anyone.

Hope some of that makes sense and helps you in some way.

Thanks, I'm thinking along these lines anyway its just reassuring to hear from someone who is on her side of situation.

I think I find it a little akward on my behalf because Ive been so blessed with how easily Ive been able to have children.

She really good at talking about things and we can even talk candidly about it all which makes it more approachable. I'll just follow her lead and like you said treat it as a normal pregnancy (because of course it could be!) and be the best friend I can be.

She is such an amazing person to endure what she has been through and she deserves to be the amazing mother I know she'll make.

I think you are already being a great friend by thinking about her situation. I pretty much agree with the lady above. I had 3 m/c and was not brave enough to tell people after the first two, so she trusts you and wants your help and support. She would be being positive and deep down knows the risks. Be positive and excited with her and go with her flow.If she start to doubt and any time also acknowlege it and let her know you are really hoping this works out for her. If it does celebrate with her and if the worst happens grieve with her. good luck to your friend, hope this is the one...Carolyn