My husband was so excited to be having a little daughter after 2 boys and he loves her so much. He is starting to feel lft out and rejected however because little miss is very much a mummy's girl and won''t go to him at all. I give her to him and she just starts crying. Sometimes she will sit with him occasionally but if she can hear or see me she starts crying and wriggling ans trying to get back into my arms. Last night the boys begged mne to read them the story at bedtime so I did and gave little miss to hubby and she just burst into tears and would not settle for him the entire time I was with the boys. I think that helped him reach his point of frustration last night because whilst I was bathing her he said, "are you going to wean her off the boob anytime soon otherwise how am I ever going to bond with her. The boys were both bottlefed from fairly early on and my hubby loved giving them the occasional bottle. I feel so sorry for him because I can see how upset he gets everytime she rejects him. Has anyone had this problem??? Does anyone have any advice on ways that dd and hubby can spend some time together. He was hoping I know to feed her, her meals when she started solids but she rejected the spoon and only wants to feed herself finger food so I think he was pretty disappointed in that.

Dad does have to realize she is a baby. Young children do tend to cling to one parent, mainly the mother as she's the baby's main life line. It's not because baby hates her father. He may need to understand that he may have to wait till she's a bit older before she accepts him fully and in the mean time don't take it as a personal thing.
My daughter when she was younger, around the same age went through a stage where she wouldn't go to her father without a struggle. Then wouldn't go to ANYONE but me. But as she got older she's out growing this stage. Whilst she still prefers me, she will go to her father most of the time.
It's just the way kids are sometimes. Rushing them into accepting a parent doesn't always help nor be the best thing either.
Patience smile
Hope every things better soon.

Have you tried expressing some milk so that her Dad can give her a bottle. I used to do that with DD as it gave me a break Dad some daddy and daughter time and DS some time with me. (It took her a while before she would take a bottle but once whe did she was ok with it although wouldn't take one from me till she was 12 months old and being weaned onto cows milk). I would also go out to the shops and leave her with DH. The first time she screamed for ages but after that she was fine and very quickly became daddy's little girl. At almost 2 she is very much a daddy's girl.
Good luck can be hard for dads they have less support and are not around as much as mums. But she will grow out of it as she gets older.

oh poor man sad my hubby was the same with our DS for a little while there hes a little mummys boy and still definately is (lol i hope it stays that way!)
i did express as a PP said and it helped alot, but did take a few goes before DS would take it. i found with both the kids that getting DH to do the bathing helped alot too, mostly because my kids screamed no matter who had them in the bath until they were about 6 months lol so it was easier for him to not take it personally and helped him bond, wasnt long until they prefered daddy for the bathing and still do!

maybe buy a special book, like a really cool one that shell love and make it a daddys book? so only daddy can read it to her and it can be a bit of special time shell come to look forward to as she grows?

shell grow out of it eventually tho as the others said i think most kids go thru something like this at some stage smile

I agree that it has a lot to do with her age. She is just a baby. My 6 month is just the same and wants me and only me. The only suggestion I have is to make sure that bub is spending time with you and hubby, rather than you handing her over and leaving the room. My hubby will sit on the floor holding DD and our toddler DS and I will be with them, playing together. Both of us also bath both of the kids and that can be another way for your DD to see that all is ok when Dad is around too.

My husband was so excited to be having a little daughter after 2 boys and he loves her so much. He is starting to feel lft out and rejected however because little miss is very much a mummy's girl and won''t go to him at all. I give her to him and she just starts crying. Sometimes she will sit with him occasionally but if she can hear or see me she starts crying and wriggling ans trying to get back into my arms. Last night the boys begged mne to read them the story at bedtime so I did and gave little miss to hubby and she just burst into tears and would not settle for him the entire time I was with the boys. I think that helped him reach his point of frustration last night because whilst I was bathing her he said, "are you going to wean her off the boob anytime soon otherwise how am I ever going to bond with her. The boys were both bottlefed from fairly early on and my hubby loved giving them the occasional bottle. I feel so sorry for him because I can see how upset he gets everytime she rejects him. Has anyone had this problem??? Does anyone have any advice on ways that dd and hubby can spend some time together. He was hoping I know to feed her, her meals when she started solids but she rejected the spoon and only wants to feed herself finger food so I think he was pretty disappointed in that.

can i offer some advice that a few older woman have given me (one being my hero my mum <3 yeah im a mums girl too!) "children will NEVER starve" so this means if their hungry they will eat, as far as im seeing it she associates comfort and security with you and ONLY you, hence the crying straight away whenever shes with someone else, i do feel for your poor husband, if shes old enough to eat solids then IMO shes old enough to be bottle fed and eat like the rest of us, i wouldnt give her any breast milk (control feed her so to speak) and introduce the spoon more often, but persevere she sounds very stubborn and can work you very well, its not a malicious thing shes doing, just a comfort thing. tell dad to keep interacting with her, and perservereing with her do you know the saying keep on knocking and it will be opened to you, or keep on asking and it will be answered? i encourage him to keep at it with her, even if you ignore her when he comes home or when ever he wants to play with her, if shes not getting from you then she'll seek that attention else where. am i making any sense at all LOL argh its 3:36am (perth time) and im wide awake but i hope you get my drift, and best of luck darl

I would not stop breastfeeding just because hubby wants to bond with her, though I can understand how he's feeling because my DD was exactly the same. She's now almost 3 and really only started getting closer to daddy in the past 6 months or so, though is still a huge mummy's girl. He's just going to have to be patient and try not to take it personally. She's not doing it to be mean - she's a baby.

Things like reading to her, bathing her, playing together etc will help the bond - just make sure she can't see you! I also go out at least once a month with a friend and leave them together - the 1st few times she screamed the house down, now she loves it. DH also takes her to the park once a fortnight or so (just the two of them) and she loves this time as well.

can i offer some advice that a few older woman have given me (one being my hero my mum <3 yeah im a mums girl too!) "children will NEVER starve" so this means if their hungry they will eat, as far as im seeing it she associates comfort and security with you and ONLY you, hence the crying straight away whenever shes with someone else, i do feel for your poor husband, if shes old enough to eat solids then IMO shes old enough to be bottle fed and eat like the rest of us, i wouldnt give her any breast milk (control feed her so to speak) and introduce the spoon more often, but persevere she sounds very stubborn and can work you very well, its not a malicious thing shes doing, just a comfort thing. tell dad to keep interacting with her, and perservereing with her do you know the saying keep on knocking and it will be opened to you, or keep on asking and it will be answered? i encourage him to keep at it with her, even if you ignore her when he comes home or when ever he wants to play with her, if shes not getting from you then she'll seek that attention else where. am i making any sense at all LOL argh its 3:36am (perth time) and im wide awake but i hope you get my drift, and best of luck darl

There is no need to put her on a bottle if she doesn't like it. My DD never had a bottle, I breastfed until 13 months then she went straight onto a cup. Also, not having purees and going straight to finger foods is not a bad thing, there are a lot of babies who are never fed purees smile

our son is ten weeks old. i am having six months off mat leave and then my husband is having six months off paternity leave.
David is definitely mummy's little boy and afterall - i am his primary carer. therefore he settles better for me. i would put him to bed sound asleep and duck out for half an hour only to find on my return my hubby nursing an upset child. he has improved though, and i have insisted that my husband spend more time with him so that they can bond together,
i get a little break, & to enable a smooth transition of primary carers when i return to work.
Although i breast feed i do express and my husband enjoys feeding david and having that quality time with him of an evening, but he especially likes it because i get a decent amount of sleep.
Bath time is also a shared responsibility of late and I have joined the gym. I am able to put my son in child care at the gym but whenever possible i leave him at home with dad.
I do not worry now as i know my husband is a capable father and he and david will "sort it out" and establish a great father son relationship. i always make sure my mobile is with me though- just in case.

When i was breast feeding my toddler this happened too and she was always saying Mum and hubby was feeling left out too but she has been a total daddys girl since about 11-12months but recently she has changed and clinged onto me alot more but she still loves her Daddy so much and loves it when he comes home fro work tongue grin

Hi,

I have a five week old baby girl and she wont go to dad either. I had to start expressing some milk everday not much around 60ml is enough. After a bath and a feed from mums boob she gets passed on to dad who gives her the expressed milk. This way dad gets to have some bonding time which he loves and she doesnt cry while he is feeding. after he is finished feeding she will fall asleep on his shoulder and he can put her to bed. It makes him feel special especially when she wont go to him any other time. This really works well for us. Hope this helps.

Hi,

I have a five week old baby girl and she wont go to dad either. I had to start expressing some milk everday not much around 60ml is enough. After a bath and a feed from mums boob she gets passed on to dad who gives her the expressed milk. This way dad gets to have some bonding time which he loves and she doesnt cry while he is feeding. after he is finished feeding she will fall asleep on his shoulder and he can put her to bed. It makes him feel special especially when she wont go to him any other time. This really works well for us. Hope this helps.

Stop expressing and doing that, they don't need to feed the baby to bond, get him to give him a bath or change a few nappies or something,

you are setting yourself up for problems later with breast feeding as it hasn't fully established yet.

for the opp tell him to get over himself, its is frustrating, maybe he could do some things like take her for a walk in the pram and some other stuff, you go out so he is alone and she can't see you etc.