I am so pissed off at DH right now. He took today and tomorrow off work, the kids went to child care and I went to work despite having a head cold. DH had been hoping that I would have a sick day but I have had at least one day off for last three weeks thanks to sick kids and I only work part time so I went to work. DH told me he was going to do some house work (which we have been struggling to keep up with thanks to being sick alot lately).

Anyway on my way home DH calls me and says we are going to RSL for dinner. I say ok but as I drive I realize we have to become members then by time we order it'll be 6:30 and the kids dinner time is 5:30. I say this to DH when I get home and he is a bit shirty. So I suggest going somewhere else as it will mean we can order quicker. As we leave the house I ask where DS1 jumper is and DH again gets irritated saying he thought we were going to RSL (it's bight and winter almost and DS1 is in a tshirt). I asked if DS2 (10months) has anything packed for dinner, no so I grab a jar off food. DS2 has temp lactose intolerance so I don't want to risk it. We put the kids in car. It's 5:40pm I ask if DS2 has had his bottle which he normally has at 5:15pm again no. Now I get told don't worry we'll never go to dinner again. I say we can we just need to plan and I get told what happen to being spontaneous (um we have two kids). I quickly make a bottle and head off to local shopping centre. DH tells DS1 we are having sushi train, I think great it not even a restruant how am I going to heat DS2s food. I tell DH that I am going to parents room to feed DS2 I give bottle, heat food and head back to sushi train to met DH and DS1 coming out with takeaway for Ds1 then we head home. I am pretty pissed off that DH was to lazy to cook dinner. The kids were at child care from 7:30am to 5pm. All that has been done in the house is one load of washing hung (he didnt even wash it) and the dishwasher has been unpacked. Honestly what the f@$k did he do all day. I am too annoyed to ask.

Yes that would annoy me.

A few months ago I pulled my back out after helping DS1 onto the toilet and called DH to come home from work as I couldn't move very well let alone look after 2 kids. He came home but didn't do much besides sit on the computer and then said to me at lunch time that he doesn't know how I do it with being a stay at home mum. He unpacked the dishwasher and re-stacked it and put his work clothes in the washing machinw. The boys kept coming in and waking me up and by midday I was getting very annoyed as if he is home sick I close the door and keep the boys away. DS1 was whingy as he wanted lunch and I ask DH if he had given him same and he said not yet. I went back to sleep for 10 minutes to wake again with DS1 asking for lunch. By this time I had had enough and got up and did it myself plus vaccumed the floor and finished the washing off. I told him what I thought. I don't want to sound like a bitch but I believe that most men are rasied that the wife will do everything and to me that is not the case. We are in this marriage together and that means for the male to help out whenever possible. I know that I will be rasing my boys to help out when they get married or move in with a partner. When DS2 was born DH was great with letting me sleep when DS2 did until DH went back to work.

Sorry to write a long story but just wanted to let you know I know how you feel. When I ask DH to cook dinner he reply's 'what do you want? Macca's etc?' Which annoys me. Just once a fortnight I would like for him to cook us dinner.

The really annoying thing is once upon a time I would have come home and the house would have been super tidy (not cleaned) everything put away washing all done and put away but since DS2 came along he does less than he ever has. I thought he'd lift his game when I went back to work 2 months ago but no. I do washing, groceries, cook meals look after DS2 completely and try to keep the house tidy. I am starting to get sick of him getting to relax after kids in bed but I am still doing washing, dishes and making meals for the next night. Honestly I don't know why I bother, it never gets noticed and I never get a thank you.

I don't work as we are TTC #3 and don't think that it's a good idea to start somewhere and then leave. If there is washing folded on the bed and I have walked away to do something he will get the shits at me for not putting them away. I always tell him that it would hurt for him to do it. DH will not go shopping with me and doesn't like me doing the vaccuming and mopping on 'his time'. So I do the shopping on a Friday morning and vaccuming and mopping on Friday arvo's while he is outside doing what he wants. It would be nice if they gave us women a Thank You. I hope it gets better for you. Maybe you and DH need a nice quiet dinner out one night just the 2 of you.

We have exactly the same situation going on here. The other day dh arranged for me to meet a friend for lunch because she is going through a rough time with her skeezy boyfriend. Nice in theory but said friend lives 3 hours drive away and he had arranged for us to meet half way. So I had to rush home from town, quickly give dd a bf, pack her bag and get on the road. Lunch was fine and it comes time to leave and dh calls and tells me he will be home to meet the school bus so I don't have to rush home. Again nice in theory but I get home and he's taken the kids down to his mothers so I have to get back in the car and pick them up. I also find that in the 45 mins he was at home it didn't occur to him to clean the kitchen so I could cook (or get anything out for dinner for that matter). Also I was sick AND we had spent the day before at a soccer tournament (I'm the coach for DS1's team). I was completely knackered and had specifically told dh that I was looking forward to the Monday cos I didn't have to do anything so I can catch up on sleep and housework! Instead I have to drive a 3 hour round trip, organise stuff for dd, get home, go pick up my boys, clean kitchen, cook dinner, and then get kids ready for bed because dh had work to finish cos he had to wait for the school bus... Arghhhhhh!

Sorry didn't mean to hijack your thread. Didn't realise how po'd I was til I started typing. So to the OP - yes, it would annoy me. I would be grateful for just a little bit of help, but then when my dh tries to help he ends up creating more work for me, so I guess he's damned if he does and damned if he doesn't. (He could just do it right the first time like all us mums do eh? wink).

Men, can't live with them, can't tie them to the underside of a plane and fly over an exploding volcano..

Ok..
Try
1- not doing any housework. Cooking, cleaning, washing, anything. See how long it takes for him to realise how disorganised it would be without your input.

I too do all the house work im a stay at home mum with a 10 week old baby girl who is starting to teeth so i get maybe 5 hours sleep in a 24 hour period and when she is awake she needs my full attention otherwise she is sooky because her gums are hurting... Before she was born the house was always spotless i LOVE a clean house.. nothing feels better then relaxing in a clean house i say. The last week though ive been completely exhausted, trying to look after my bub do the dishes clean up everything have dinner ready by the end of the day and shes in bed i just want to curl up and sleep instead i wash the dishes clean the kitchen hang out or put on a load of washing so im getting to bed at 12 most nights. IM SO OVER IT.. i ask him once or twice to hold her while she crying why i try to finish dinner and its "im on the phone to my mum cant you just hold her im busy" to which i would retort " i cant do two things at once i cant cook and look after a crying baby so you bloody pick what do you want a burnt dinner and a quiet baby or a good dinner and a screaming baby make your pick".. of course he rolls his eyes and say to his mum on the phone that he has to do everything.. go to work then come home and look after the baby.. ARGH drives me insane..

They dont understand how hard it is to juggle everything at once.. im a first time mum and was finding it ok until her teething now im over his laziness.

MEN! can live with them cant live without them.

sorry needed the rant after reading the other posts lol

well sorry but my hubby is good, he's away during the week and only home on the weekends or every 2nd weekend, one day after he'd been away he was like oh did you catch the news about blah blah blah and I was like hunny my day starts at 6 and I don't clock off till about 8 (thats if DS is sleeping ok) so no I haven't caught the news all week. I think he realised then. and then one day I said to him, "do you think I'm doing a good job?" and he was like at what and I said keeping the house tidy and son happy etc. and he was like yeah totally and I said to him well it would be nice of you to say so every once and a while. he's been great ever since
I found this on another thread in here made me have a chuckle:

A husband comes home for the day to find the front door open, children in various states of undress with food all over their faces in the lounge crying and throwing toys around, dishes piled up in the sink, no dinner on to cook, the washing piled up in the laundry, floors dirty and several messages on the answering machine. He searches everywhere and finally finds his wife in her bed reading a book, looking very relaxed and content. He says to her "what the hell went on here today??" She replies: "You know how you ask me what I do all day? Well, today I didn't do it."[/i][/i]

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well sorry but my hubby is good, he's away during the week and only home on the weekends or every 2nd weekend, one day after he'd been away he was like oh did you catch the news about blah blah blah and I was like hunny my day starts at 6 and I don't clock off till about 8 (thats if DS is sleeping ok) so no I haven't caught the news all week. I think he realised then. and then one day I said to him, "do you think I'm doing a good job?" and he was like at what and I said keeping the house tidy and son happy etc. and he was like yeah totally and I said to him well it would be nice of you to say so every once and a while. he's been great ever since
I found this on another thread in here made me have a chuckle:

A husband comes home for the day to find the front door open, children in various states of undress with food all over their faces in the lounge crying and throwing toys around, dishes piled up in the sink, no dinner on to cook, the washing piled up in the laundry, floors dirty and several messages on the answering machine. He searches everywhere and finally finds his wife in her bed reading a book, looking very relaxed and content. He says to her "what the hell went on here today??" She replies: "You know how you ask me what I do all day? Well, today I didn't do it."[/i][/i]
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wink I love that last bit.
same with my partner he drives me crazy i only have one child firt time mum so totally new to thus every story iv read reminds me a bit of him, but at the same time i have learnt maybe just to do it, relying on men just is like knowing its not going to get done.
then one day my partner says to me ' i thinnk your a awesome mum with what you do, i could never do what you do.thank you babe'
and after i have been greatful for with him working hes making the money for us to survive while im a stay at home mum.
and even now he helps out a bit.

so hopefully your partner comes around smile x

Men, can't live with them, can't tie them to the underside of a plane and fly over an exploding volcano..
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Yes it would annoy me, im training my man now smile before any kids come along, so hopefully when we have some here we will be ok! he can cook great, knows how to clean, and is slowly learning to do these without me asking! fingers crossed! however i can see him expecting me to do all if i stop work (im a nanny, hoping to do in home child care a few days a week when i have bubs)

gd luck, maybe like an above poster said dont do anything for a day or two! smile

We had a rule in our house that DH is in charge of the dishes. So if they didn't get done then we knew who to blame!

One day he decides that it isn't fair anymore cos he's now back working full time while l'm at home with 3 kids. After some thought, l responded that my job at the moment is being a mum, not house cleaner. Being a mum is about looking after the kids by playing, interacting, feeding, sleeping etc. Yes, l agreed that l should take on most of the daily housework, but he still has a role to play.

He is now doing the dishes!

HAHA funny i come across this thread!
Geez i know this feeling all too well. DH just sits on his ass and plays playstation every time he comes home till the time he goes to sleep. i get hardley any help with DS unless i ask for it. If i ever DONT cook dinner and he asked whats for tea and i reply nothing.. then he says "looks like im having a coffee" Like MATE its not hard to toast some sandwiches or something easy! i understand i dont work and he works to bring in the money but i have a 2 year old to run around after all day plus im pregnant. plus am a nany looking after another 2 kids. my house is barely clean cause i never get the time and when i do im to exhausted and just want to relax.
LIke today ( he just got a new PS3 Game) he comes home early at 2 jumps straight on it.. 5pm come around i ask him if he can go out the back and pull the little amount of weeds out. he says yes.. 6pm comes around.. still nothing so i ask another 3 times... it finally gets done but a very quick and *** job!!

And not to mention money situations. he is F****N ridiculous when it comes to reliablity on money!! i have to act like his mother so i know what it goes on and stress to him about what bills to pay this week.


OMG enough from me - but its good to get that out!!!

HAHA funny i come across this thread!
Geez i know this feeling all too well. DH just sits on his ass and plays playstation every time he comes home till the time he goes to sleep. i get hardley any help with DS unless i ask for it. If i ever DONT cook dinner and he asked whats for tea and i reply nothing.. then he says "looks like im having a coffee" Like MATE its not hard to toast some sandwiches or something easy! i understand i dont work and he works to bring in the money but i have a 2 year old to run around after all day plus im pregnant. plus am a nany looking after another 2 kids. my house is barely clean cause i never get the time and when i do im to exhausted and just want to relax.
LIke today ( he just got a new PS3 Game) he comes home early at 2 jumps straight on it.. 5pm come around i ask him if he can go out the back and pull the little amount of weeds out. he says yes.. 6pm comes around.. still nothing so i ask another 3 times... it finally gets done but a very quick and *** job!!

And not to mention money situations. he is F****N ridiculous when it comes to reliablity on money!! i have to act like his mother so i know what it goes on and stress to him about what bills to pay this week.


OMG enough from me - but its good to get that out!!!