Hi Ladies,

I am 13 weeks pregnancy and i would like any suggestions on how I can get my Partner more involved in the Pregnancy.

Thanks grin

I made dp come to all ultra sounds and doctor appointments the ultra sounds are good as they get to see bubs and my dp felt more bonded seeing them in there and moving.
When bubs start to kick make him feel the kicks that is a special moment and even him reading a story or talking to bubs threw your tummy lol dp use to sit there and talk to my tummy as he really wanted them to recognize his voice when they were born.
Let him pick out clothes as much as I didn't like what dp chose out I let him do it as it was his in put his not the best at putting things together but he tried with the cot etc so maybe let him put the babies things together will make him feel his doing his part.
Hope I helped you a little xx

I bought my husband a couple of books written especially for first time fathers. I feel really lucky that I don't have to push my husband to be involved, he's really excited and can actually get on my nerves sometimes with all his questions and worrying lol. I think, don't worry so much at the start if he seems a bit indifferent... Before I was really showing and before the baby kicking and such my husband would say it's not "real" to him yet, but it all changed once it was obvious a baby was growing inside!

DF really wishes he could be more involved, he's admitted that he is jealous that I get this experience (he even said he'd take my sickness and pains with it, he's a sweetheart). One thing we are doing, which is special to us/him is a long way down the track but something for you to think about if you like. With DS he was unable to even attend the birth sad but this time round we're not finding out the sex, like last time, but instead of the midwives or anything, HE is going to 'catch' the bubs, and announce the sex to the room. It'll only be us both and the medical people but he's really keen. He'll get to see, touch, hold, smell bubs and see the sex before me. So it's sort of like making it 'even' so to speak. I got to feel bubs kicking inside me first, he gets to feel bubs first outside world kicks...

Just a thought.

i made sure to check with my hubby before i booked appointments to be sure he would be able to come.
i also bought him a book called 'so your going to be a dad' by peter downey (very good read, i got more from it myself then i did from all the other pregnancy books, i loved it and DH raves about it to other dads to be).
when we were going to sleep hes always put his hand on my tummy just in case bubs moved then when he finally felt it (21weeks) he was in love with it and talked to my belly all the time)
he pretty much choose both our bubs names too lol didnt mean to he just came out with them and i loved them.
he also rubbed moisturiser into my belly nearly everynight (i think this helped with stretch marks and with the itching as you get bigger) even though i was perfectly capable of doing it myself i told him the baby liked it better when he did it.
i also made sure he had a good say in the baby things we bought (or didnt buy)
so i guess theres lots of ways to keep dad involved smile but def dont let him miss the 12 or 18-20 week ultrasounds!
if you find out the sex make sure you let him choose clothes and toys too if he wants to (and he may not admit it) make it sound like hes doing you a favour lol..like 'huni can you please go and have a look at some of the baby jumpers and pick a few while i look at these socks?'

I would just leave him be for now, as for now it might not seem real for him, but as your belly grows and he can start to feel it kick he might change and want to be more involved. My DH would never read a book and has very little to do with my pregnancies early on, but as time goes on he would talk to the baby. He has never been one to come to dr's appointments, but always made it to the scans.

I have the same problem, except my pregnancy was a suprise, and my partner had made it clear he didn't want any more kids when we got together (we already have 3 between us but this is our first together).
He then tried to talk me into a termination. I have always known I could never terminate a pregnancy so refused to. Now he's not really interested. He loves me though and has gotten used to the idea but it worries me that he's not told his best mate, or his 2 brothers that I'm pregnant. He has told his parents and his grandparents. He won't be coming to my 12 week scan on wednesday as he works away.
So do I just shut up about it? I told him about my scan and got no real reply, so I asked him if I should bother telling him stuff and he said yeah I should tell him but how do u know if they're just saying it to 'keep the woman happy'

I have the same problem, except my pregnancy was a suprise, and my partner had made it clear he didn't want any more kids when we got together (we already have 3 between us but this is our first together).
He then tried to talk me into a termination. I have always known I could never terminate a pregnancy so refused to. Now he's not really interested. He loves me though and has gotten used to the idea but it worries me that he's not told his best mate, or his 2 brothers that I'm pregnant. He has told his parents and his grandparents. He won't be coming to my 12 week scan on wednesday as he works away.
So do I just shut up about it? I told him about my scan and got no real reply, so I asked him if I should bother telling him stuff and he said yeah I should tell him but how do u know if they're just saying it to 'keep the woman happy'