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Top five fears for bub

Top five fears for bub

Having been through the caring for a new baby routine three times now, and the jury is still out on doing it a fourth time, I realized something. Each time I held my newborn in my arms it was a different experienceHowever, despite their individuality, there was a set of fears I had for them, and they were pretty much the same each time. I’m sharing them NOT to be negative but to acknowledge that they do exist ,and that in order to cope I had to put in place strategies to manage them and be able to enjoy motherhood as well.
1) SIDS. I’ve written about this before here so you can understand my terror of it. However, the only thing I could do was follow all the prescribed guidelines and hope for the best. Thankfully, it’s all been okay.
2) Sleep deprivation: like any mother of a newborn I have wearily wondered if I will EVER get a full night sleep again. Eight years since having my first born I sometimes still feel that way. The good thing is that it does get better.
With my third child I went through a hellish time. Though not as hellish for me as it was for poor Mr Small, who had horrible silent reflux. I remember having the phone-number for Ngala pinned to my fridge. If you are a new mum, my best advice (and only) would be don’t be afraid to ask for help if you are struggling. Really and truly. You do not have to cope on your own.
3) My third fear was fever. One of my children was prone to fevers and it was truly horrible. There is a history of seizures in my family and I lived in terror of them. As a result the GP’s number was always close at hand and I acted quickly at the first time of a temp rising.
4) Immunisations: a necessary evil, but when my eight week old baby was being injected and I would see their poor little face crumple. I couldn’t help but feel teary in sympathy. Every single time.
5) Feeding: like every mum I suspect I worried about my baby getting enough food and if they might inadvertently be starving. The best way for me to cope with that was taking them to weekly weigh in. It was like Weight Watcher’s, but in reverse and I would cheer on their gains proudly.
What were your baby fears? How did you cope?

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Worry and parenthood often go hand in hand. Sarah shares her top five fears & how she coped.

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Posted 11 April 2011 - 03:32 AM

Avatar Bemilne

For me, mine were:
1. SIDS - for the same reasons as yours and also followed the recommended things to minimise the risk.
2. Fever/illness - again, similar reasons as yours, but more because of fear of the unknown. Again, many trips to the doctors.
3. Unknown potential disorders/illnesses/diseases - who knows what is going to crop up as they grow, scares me still!
4. What sort of people will they grow up to be? Working on that one every day!
5. Feeding - only for my 3rd, his weight gain slowed at 3mths, and stopped between 6 and 9mths. Lots of worry and a trip to the paediatrician later and he is now gaining weight at a sensible rate and is a real little man.
Love them all!

Posted 13 April 2011 - 11:15 AM

Avatar Chookyla

Ok for my now 12mth old so far its been:
1) SIDS- i don't think there's many mums who don't worry about this. I did the constant wrapping, sleep positioner routine and thankfully it's been all good.
2) Sleep Deprivation - Initially due to issues with breast feeding and reflux I never thought I may have gotten a proper nights sleep but eventually I did...I am a mum of one and do plan to have more so hopefully I strike a major winning streak with my next few to come lol
3)Hair loss - I know this is more a MUM thing but unfortunately I was one of the unlucky mums who experienced this quite severely after having my daughter & i've heard sometimes ur hair may never get back to normal after having kids but it seems to be better now THANK GOD!
4)Sticky Eye/Conjunctivitis - My bub got hit with this for approx from birth till 7mths and after a specialist appt and many many many tubes of saline & cotton balls which weren't working- i opted for the good ol rinsing with salt water from the beach and it worked like a charm!
5) Feeding - Just knowing how to do this correctly and even being mum was a bit challenging at first...once I switched my bubs to formula it did get easier...had some issues by the time she hit 5-6mths as she sometimes wouldn't finish a whole bottle but now thats definitely now a concern since shes eating solids and not depending on milk as much..thank God she had a great appetite.

Posted 27 May 2011 - 10:59 AM

Avatar Cookisland_Allstar

For me being a first time mother and still pretty young, my fears for my 7 month old are:

1. Contracting Meningitis-as I, myself contracted this around her age and because of my fear of this, no one is allowed to kiss my baby on the lips. Not even myself or the father.

2. Sleep Deprivation-I noticed when I was sleep deprived, I was cranky towards my daughter, I got frustrated and exhausted, but slowly it's getting better and easier.

3. Memory Loss-Sometimes I forgot what I was going to get from the fridge, what we did two days ago or the day before.

4. What kind of person will she become?Will she be like me, her father or someone else in the family?

5. Will she love animals as much as I do or will she shun away from them and be terrified of animals?

Posted 07 June 2011 - 09:50 AM

Avatar JadeAnkh

1. SIDS
2. Am I doing the right things for my baby i.e. eating the right foods, interacting enough, talking anough
3. Will my baby suffer for the busy lives we currently have (they are currently unavoidable busy things)
4. Will I get PND
5. Is he developing properly

Posted 08 July 2011 - 09:37 AM

Avatar ej''''smum

1- not being able to protect/ keep them safe all the time ( unrealistic I know)
2- what sort of men they will grow up to be, what kind of job and life will they have.
3- How will they cope at school, uni etc. every day stresses
4- Ho9w to keep them from falling off the rails.
5- will they still come and see us LOL

Posted 08 July 2011 - 10:14 AM

Avatar Jackie_Mutimer

1. SIDS this one i worry about the most as a friend of mine lost her baby to it last year as well as a few other friends of mine.
2. Feeding am also one of those ppl who worry does my baby get enough milk.
3. Sleep Deprivation this one is mostly at night as when I am feeding my baby girl i start to nod of and when she wont feed prper I gert cranky not meaning to and start saying things i dont mean sad
4.Development I worry about this because I was induced with her as the placenta stoped working and so she stoped growing and I wonder what affect its going to have on her when she grows up.
5. reflux she has the silent reflux so at least once a day this happenswhen she is asleep and i go to check on her and there is spew everywere and i gotta change her bedding and her clothes and wipe her down. she is now 2 weeks and 2 days old.

Posted 14 November 2011 - 12:31 AM

Avatar Rhettholt

I know this will sound strange, but what about drowning. It is pretty much SIDS, but it is mishandled. 10 times the amount of drownings result in permanent injury and nobody discusses that. It costs 158 million each year, and because it isn't a death, it is not recorded in the same place.

Posted 04 December 2011 - 11:34 PM

Avatar Lastitzi

1 being a smothering mother. my mother doesn't give me room to breath and i am paranoid about doing the same.
2 sleeping through when she wants me. I get so tired i feel like i won't wake up.
3 illness. her getting sick for any reason
4 excluding dad. i wanna do all her feeds and everything myself and physically have to make myself share
5 feeding. is she eating to much or not enough am i doing it right am i giving her to much wind and not getting rid of it right

Posted 09 April 2013 - 09:56 PM

Avatar Daniam

Mine would be:
Death or serious illness/injury
Not being there if they were harmed or worse
People 'interfering' with them
Drugs and disorderly behaviour as kids/adults
Them feeling as though we aren't there for them no matter what

Posted 09 April 2013 - 11:06 PM

Avatar JellybeanIcecream

I have a black belt in worrying.
1. SIDS or any other serious illness threatening my child's life or well being.
2. Autism. I have watched my eldest son struggle with this for his whole life. He's grown now and doing well, but there were immense difficulties along the way, especially bullying at high school. I desperately hope my other two children will be free from this condition, as it makes it so much harder to connect with people and be happy.
3. Car accidents. We do a lot of interstate car trips and I am terrified of losing a precious child in this way.
4. Abduction/sexual abuse. I work in the courts and have to listen to horrible accounts of child exploitation. I really struggle with the necessity of entrusting my kids to other people at child care and so forth.
5. As an older mum, I worry about something happening to me and not being here for my little ones.

Posted 09 April 2013 - 11:16 PM

Avatar ginnolly

Rhettholt wrote:
I know this will sound strange, but what about drowning. It is pretty much SIDS, but it is mishandled. 10 times the amount of drownings result in permanent injury and nobody discusses that. It costs 158 million each year, and because it isn't a death, it is not recorded in the same place.


My biggest fear is drowning... I have reoccuring dreams about this all the time.

Posted 10 April 2013 - 06:40 AM

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